When two people are angry at the same time, the distance between their hearts is very far.

One day a wise teacher asked his students: “Why do people shout when they are angry?”

All the students thought about it for a long time, and one of them said: “Because we have lost our “calmness”, so we will shout.”

The teacher asked again: “But why do you still shout when someone is next to you? Can’t you say it in a low voice? Why do you always shout?”

Almost all the students talked a lot, but there was no answer that satisfied the teacher.

Finally, the teacher explained: “When two people are angry at the same time, the distance between their hearts is very far. To cross the distance of the heart, so that the other party can hear, so he will use the way of shouting. But while shouting, people will become more virtuous; the angrier people are, the farther the distance will become. As the distance gets farther, you have no choice but to shout louder…”

The teacher went on to say: “And when two people are in love, what will it be like? The situation is just the opposite. Not only do you don’t need to shout, but you speak very softly. Why? Because their hearts are very close and there is almost no distance between them, the two people in love usually talk in whispers. Therefore, the love in the heart has become deeper. As time passes, no words are needed at all. Couples can communicate with each other only with their eyes. By this time, the so-called distance between heart and heart has long been gone…”

Finally, the teacher made a conclusion: “When two people quarrel, don’t let the distance between the hearts become far; not to mention something that makes the distance of the heart farther. After calming down, the distance between each other’s hearts is already a little closer, and it won’t be too late to speak well by then!”

When two people are angry, the distance between their hearts is very far. When they are angry with each other, please keep silent and don’t make any decisions when they are angry.

Epiphany: The communication between people is not the communication between the body and the body, but the communication between the mind and the soul. Sometimes, when you are close at hand and your heart is far away, you must increase the volume to ensure that the distant mind can receive the message. No matter who you are communicating with, bring each other’s hearts closer and communicate with each other attentively.

There are six kinds of disasters that cause money to dissipate and lead to evil ways

There are six kinds of scourges for good children, and it should be known that not only the loss of money will also lead to evil ways. Which six?

  1. Addicted to wine and wandering.
  2. Going in and out of other people’s homes from time to time
    • There are two meanings here:
      • Going in and out of other rooms, it is easy to disturb others.
      • It may lead to evil karma that creates evil. ——<< The Immeasurable Life Sūtra>> note: “Because of his fancy appearance, he feels hatred for his own wife. In private, he often communicates with his lover and creates evil karma. It is illegal to cost and damage family wealth.”).
  3. Love gambling games and wander freely
  4. Love kabuki music.
  5. Make bad friends.
  6. The behavior is lazy and slack.  

The Buddha speaks of its Righteousness with Praise:

Indulge in wine and enter other rooms, betting and game fans singing and dancing; It is not praised by sages to make wicked friends and slack off.

Drinking will produce six changes, which should be known. Which six?

  1. Is to consume money.
  2. Excessive drinking causes illness.
  3. It is prone to disputes after being drunk.
  4. It is because drinking will cause more anger.
  5. It is the gaffe after drinking that will bring bad reputation.
  6. Drinking alcohol will damage the mind.

After drinking alcohol, it is easy to waste one’s own business, the unearned money cannot be obtained, the already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

There are six kinds of changes in licentiousness. You should know which six kinds of changes?

  1. Can’t protect one’s health.
  2. Can’t protect his wife and children.
  3. Inability to protect and considerate family members.
  4. This person feels uneasy due to various incidents caused by suspicion.
  5. It is convenient to blame the enemy.
  6. Surrounded and persecuted by many troubles.

If you have this bad karma, it is easy to waste your career. Unearned money will lead to inability to obtain, and already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

There are six changes in gambling games, which should be known. Which six?

  1. Winning will cause resentment in the opponent’s heart.
  2. Losing this person’s heart is anxious and feverish.
  3. Friends and family members are worried and sad about this.
  4. Blame the enemy and feel happy about it.
  5. Gambling can lead to crimes in prison.
  6. The behavior of the gambler makes everyone suspicious.

If you have this bad karma, it is easy to waste your career. Unearned money will lead to inability to obtain, and already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

There are six changes in music preference, which should be known. Which six?

  1. All my mind is spent dancing.
  2. The mind is spent on singing and singing.
  3. The mind is spent on string sound and string music.
  4. All my thoughts are spent on the beat of the music.
  5. My mind is spent on drumming.
  6. My mind is spent on things related to singing and dancing.

If you have this bad karma, it is easy to waste your career. Unearned money will lead to inability to obtain, and already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

Making bad friends will produce six changes, which should be known. Which six?

  1. Often drunk and confused.
  2. Often confused.
  3. Will often indulge arbitrarily.
  4. Often soak in the tavern.
  5. Often get close to the villain.
  6. Often speaks vulgarly.

If you have this bad karma, it is easy to waste your career. Unearned money will lead to inability to obtain, and already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

Laziness and slackness can produce six kinds of changes, which should be known. Which six?

  1. Don’t want to work when you are full.
  2. Don’t want to work when you are hungry.
  3. Don’t want to work when it’s cold.
  4. Don’t want to work when it’s hot.
  5. Don’t want to work in the morning.
  6. Don’t want to work in the evening.

If you have this bad karma, it is easy to waste your career. Unearned money will lead to inability to obtain, and already earned will dissipate, and many years of savings will be exhausted.

Be a real noble person

In daily life, everyone hopes to meet the noble person and hope that the noble person can help. However, some people often take it for granted when they receive assistance from others, and even complain about the other party: “It is not enough for you to help a little bit, you should continue to help!” What’s more, the noble person has already appeared in front of you. But still ignorant or careless to identify the person of importance or great ability, thinking that the other party is nosy.

If you meet someone with this kind of mentality, it’s like an idiom that i have read: “A dog biting Lu Dong Bin and to ill reward a person’s kindness.” Lu Dong Bin took some food to feed the dog because of his kindness. As a result, the dog was not grateful, but bit him back. There are many such situations in society. You help the other person. Not only does he not know how to be grateful, but he even blames you for troubles. No matter how kind you treat him, he is dissatisfied, and may even return favour and revenge. Encountering such a thing, it is difficult for people to balance, what should we do at this time?

Lü Dongbin (796 CE-1016 CE) is a legendary Chinese scholar and poet said to have lived during the Tang Dynasty. Whether he actually lived the two hundred and twenty years cannot be determined. Elevated to the status of an immortal in the Chinese cultural sphere by Daoists, he is one of the most widely known of the group of deities known as the Eight Immortals. Lü is also a historical figure and mentioned in the official history book History of Song. He is widely considered to be one of the earliest masters of neidan, or internal alchemy. He is also depicted in art dressed as a scholar carrying a sword to dispel evil spirits.

Therefore, a scholar once told me: “Good people are difficult to do, and good doors are difficult to open.” Therefore, to be a small good person, you can’t be a big good person; To do small good things, you can’t do big good things; If you want to open the door of small goodness, you can’t open the door of great goodness.”

I ask him why? He said: “When a person is hungry, you give him a catty of rice and let him take it home to cook, he will be very grateful, because without this bowl of rice, he may not be able to survive. But if you take it People who have no food to eat are raised at home and give him food every day. When you ask him to help with things, he may become disgusted: ‘What’s so great, I’m just eating a few bites of your meal, what do you think of me?’ Gradually, such psychological contradictions and conflicts will appear.”

This layman’s statement is very interesting, and the reason seems to be correct, but in fact it is not completely correct.

For example, as long as someone knows that Fagushan or so-called Dharma Drum Mountain is an international Buddhist spiritual is doing relief work, they will come to the door one after another, hoping that we will give them money and materials. If they feel that we are not giving enough, they will shout loudly: “Buddha should be very merciful, why are you so so? No mercy?” So some people think that if we never do charity work, no one knows, and no one will call us or beg us.

Dharma Drum Mountain is an international Buddhist spiritual, cultural, and educational foundation founded by late Chan master Sheng-yen. The center focuses on educating the public in Buddhism with the goal of improving the world and establishing a “Pure Land on Earth” through Buddhist education.

But there must be mutual assistance and cooperation between people. When you have the resources and ability, you should try to help others. As for whether others regard you as a noble person, it doesn’t matter. Although there may be some sequelae, if you want to do good deeds, open good doors, and be others’ nobles, you shouldn’t care about it, and you shouldn’t hope to get thanks from others after doing good deeds. Doing good things is simply because you are “willing” to do it. When the other person gets help, you feel very happy. This is the reward you get from helping others. As for how others will criticize and treat yourself in the future, you don’t need to care too much.

Therefore, if you want to be someone else’s real noble person, you should try your best to do what you can do. Other people’s criticism, slander, and excessive demands do not need to be taken into consideration. Because no matter how others scolded, it is his business and has nothing to do with him; if you should not be scolded and get scolded, it is the wrongdoing of others, you don’t need to be angry or discouraged. As long as you can dedicate yourself, you should feel happy.

There is actually only one true “noble person” in life, but unfortunately many people don’t know how to cherish it.

Some people say that every person we meet in our lives who helps us is our noble person. Their appearance has warmed our lives. Maybe they gave us a hand when we were most desperate, or maybe they woke us up when they were full of ambition. In short, because of the appearance of nobles in this life, our lives have brilliance.

However, these nobles only flash in our lives, as gorgeous as fireworks but not long. How lucky we are to meet in this life; if not, it is normal.

Having gone through so many twists and turns and watching so many other people’s experiences, in my understanding, I always firmly believe that everyone has a real “noble person” in their life, that is, ourselves, and please cherish it for the rest of your life.

The meaning of hard work is to become your own nobleman for yourself, just like my dad always said: “The road must be walked by yourself, so that you can go wider and wider.”

No matter where we go, no matter what we do, we need to rely on ourselves for most of our lives. One of my noble said: “You cannot live without friends. Among all friends, the most important one cannot be missed, and that is myself.

I have a friend who met when he was in college. At that time, he was positive, sunny, and brave. Many people liked him and pursued him. As the same sex, we never envied him for having so many girls like it. On the contrary, who doesn’t like such a big boy?

Later, we joined the same company, the performance was similar, but the reputation was different. He is willing to help others, always willing to extend a helping hand to others, and when others have difficulties, he is always willing to ask him for help.

Perhaps everyone’s life trajectory is really different. After two years of working together, we could have been promoted together, but he was lying in a hospital bed for half a year due to an accidental car accident. It was only half a year later that he knew that his legs would not return to the way they used to be in this life, that is to say, he could only spend the second half of his life in a wheelchair.

Because of his good popularity, so many nobles appeared in his life at this time. All the employees of the company did their best to collect enough medical expenses for him, so that he and his family do not have to worry about high medical expenses, and avoid the pain of running around and borrowing money;

The company paid for him to install a prosthesis, so that he can stand up temporarily by external force. If the company does not pay the money, he will not be able to install a prosthesis for at least five years on his own family alone; friends volunteered to take care of him , Accompany him to relax every day, and even friends do not think he has trouble taking him to travel together.

He said these people are the nobles in his life. Indeed, without the help of these nobles, he would not have gone so smoothly after being hospitalized.

But since he was discharged from the hospital, I have witnessed him sitting in a wheelchair playing basketball and watching him dancing with the help of a prosthesis. I personally witnessed him who never knew how to cook before, but now he cooks three meals a day for his family and friends.

The big boys who were originally sunny did not complain about themselves after losing their legs, but instead loved life even more. His change and mentality may be related to the help of relatives and friends. It is the hope that these nobles have given him to live, but his own heart is even more powerful.

Everyone gave him help only once, once or several times. Behind everyone’s invisible, he encourages himself and faces life positively every day. It is hard for us to imagine that he faces his own double in these days. The legs are how to try to stand, try to play basketball, and try to cook again and again. It is also difficult for us to imagine how he spends every night that is sleepless.

He tried countless times and failed countless times. The ultimate success relied on his own tempering thousands of times. If it were not his own will and yearning for life, even if the people around him helped him, it would be nothing more than a body of self-pity. It is him who makes his life meaningful; It was himself who gave himself a second life.

There is a saying, when you go to a high place, it is you who stabilize you; when you go to a low place, it is also you who make you survive.

I saw a question on a certain platform. Someone asked how I spent the hardest time in my life. Some people say that in that darkest moment, they said they pulled out of the abyss.

In a sense, the only real nobles in life are ourselves. We live in this world, and we all have our own established road to go. The difficulties and setbacks on this road can only be faced by ourselves, and no one can replace them.

My dad always said: “It is better to rely on others as self-reliance, and it is better to be a person than to be yourself.”

No matter when, we can really rely on ourselves. Just like this friend of mine, many people will think that he has benefited from the help of so many noble people in the second half of his life. But I think that the reason why these people lend a helping hand when he is the most difficult is because all his previous actions also brought warmth to others.

If he does not often help friends and colleagues, then these friends and colleagues are just expressing sympathy. If he is not diligent and hardworking at work, then the company is just giving some condolences out of humanitarianism. What he gets now is the blessing he has paid.

In the final analysis, the noble man in his life is still himself.

How short a person’s life is, but most people still don’t know how to cherish it. Most people complain about themselves, complain about their bad background, complain about bad work, complain about social injustice, complain about the lack of help from nobles, complain about people around them, and things around them are not going as smoothly. In fact, many times, it is these complaints that make our lives gloomy.

Everyone will experience suffering, and there is no absolute fairness in this society. We can only fight for what we want. There is no pie in the sky, and there is no free lunch. You will get as much as you pay. If you don’t work hard, you won’t gain, and if you don’t work, you won’t be rewarded.

Don’t complain about the so-called injustice, don’t complain about life because of difficulties, don’t sacrifice yourself for the grievances of others. Think of yourself as the most important person in your life, work hard to love yourself, work hard to love the world.

Even if you are in the darkest abyss, don’t give up on yourself, try to let yourself catch up with the sun, and live your splendid life actively and bravely, more than anything else.

There is only one life, and it deserves our best effort to give full play to its brilliance. When you learn to love yourself and cherish yourself, you will become a real noble person in your short life.

After reading these 5 stories, let you suddenly realize. . . . .

Past Life and Present Life

Once upon a time, there was a scholar who had an appointment with his fiancée to get married on a certain day of a certain month in a certain year. On that day, the fiancée married someone else. Scholars have been hit by this and can’t afford to be sick.

At this time, a traveling monk passed by and took out a mirror from his arms and asked the scholar to look at it. The scholar saw the vast ocean, and a murdered woman was lying naked on the beach. A person passing by, took a look, shook his head, and left. Another person passed by, took off his clothes, covered the woman’s body, and left. Another person passed by, went over, dug a hole, and carefully buried the body.

The monk explained that the female corpse on the beach is your fiancée’s previous life. You are the second person to pass by and once gave her a dress. She is in love with you in this life, just to repay you. But in the end, she wants to repay the person who lives forever, the last person to bury her, and that person is his current husband. The scholar realized his illness and healed.

The Child’s Heart

A single woman had just moved. She found a poor family living next door, a widow and two children. One night, there was a sudden power failure in that area, and the woman had to light a candle by herself.

After a while, she suddenly heard someone knock on the door. It turned out to be the child of the neighbour next door. He asked nervously, “Auntie, do you have candles in your house?” The woman thought: Is their family so poor that they don’t even have candles? Don’t borrow them, lest you be dependent on them! So, he yelled at the child and said, “No!”

Just as she was about to close the door, the poor boy showed a smile of love and said, “I knew that there must be no candles in your house!” After finishing speaking, he took out two candles from his arms and said, “Mom and I were afraid that you would live alone without candles, so I brought two to send you.” At this moment, the woman blamed herself and was moved to tears, and she hug the child tightly in her arms.

Pure Heart

There was a small town that hadn’t rained for a long time, causing heavy losses to the local crops, so the priest gathered everyone and prepared to hold a prayer meeting in the church to pray for rain. There was a little girl in the crowd. Because she was too small, almost no one could see her, but she also came to participate in the rain prayer meeting.  

At this time, the priest noticed what the little girl had brought, and excitedly pointed at her on the stage: “That little sister touched me very much!” So, everyone looked in the direction of his fingers.

The pastor went on to say, “We came to pray today for God to rain, but she was the only one in the whole synagogue with an umbrella today!” Everyone took a closer look, and sure enough, a small red umbrella hung next to her seat; at this time, everyone was quiet for a while, followed by a burst of applause and tears intertwined with the beauty.  

Sometimes we have to say: children are not small at all; they are actually very big! Their love is great! Their confidence is great!

We are only inconvenient for three hours

Luckily, I booked a ticket back to my husband’s house with my husband that day. After getting on the bus, I found a lady sitting in our seat. My husband motioned to me to sit next to her first but did not ask the lady to give way. I took a closer look and found that her right foot was a little inconvenient, so I realized why my husband didn’t ask her to give up her seat.

He just stood from Chiayi to Taipei, and never told the lady that the seat belonged to him. After getting off the bus, I said to him, who was distressed about her husband “Giving way is a good deed, but for so long from Chiayi to Taipei, you can ask her to return her seat to you halfway and let you sit down.” The husband said, “People are not convenient for a lifetime, and we are only inconvenient for these three hours.”

When my husband said that I was very touched. Having such a good husband who is kind and unwelcome makes me feel that the world has become much gentler.

If the mind turns, the world may be different from then on. In life, everything could turn, depending on how we think and turn. We may not succeed in three minutes, but maybe if it takes that minute, life will be different from now on.

The elderly couple lives in a hotel

One early spring night, everyone was asleep, and an elderly couple walked into a hotel, but the hotel was full.

The clerk at the front desk couldn’t bear to let the old couple go to find other hotel late at night, so he led them to a room: “Maybe it’s not the best, but at least you don’t have to run around.”

When the old man saw the neat and clean house, he lived in happily with his wife.

The next day, when they were about to check out, the waiter said, “No, because you live in my room. I wish you a pleasant journey!”

It turned out that he himself spent the whole night at the front desk. The old man was very touched and said, “My child, you are the best hotel operator I have ever seen. You will be rewarded.” The clerk smiled, sent the old man out, and turned around and forgot about it.

One day, he received a letter with a one-way ticket to New York, and he came to a magnificent building as indicated in the letter. It turned out that late at night he received a billionaire and his wife. The rich man bought a big hotel for the clerk and was convinced that he would manage the big hotel well.

This is the legendary story of the famous Hilton Hotel and his first manager.

The cause and effect are in your own hands! When the masters have not yet clearly defined their grand goals in life, they have done the present things with their heart!

Everyone is a waiter, and greatness always starts with serving others first. How great a person’s ability to serve others is, how great is his life’s achievement!

The clerk was Boldt and the elderly gent was William Waldorf Astor. The building he pointed to was the Waldorf Astoria, in all its glory. 

The original hotel started as two hotels on Fifth Avenue built by feuding relatives. The first hotel, the 13-story, 450-room Waldorf Hotel, designed by Henry Janeway Hardenbergh in the German Renaissance style, was opened on March 13, 1893, at the corner of Fifth Avenue and 33rd Street, on the site where millionaire developer William Waldorf Astor had his mansion.

William Waldorf “Willy” Astor, 1st Viscount Astor

(March 31, 1848 – October 18, 1919) was an American-British attorney, politician, businessman (hotels and newspapers), and philanthropist. Astor was a scion of the very wealthy Astor family of New York City. He moved to Britain in 1891, became a British subject in 1899, and was made a peer as Baron Astor in 1916 and Viscount Astor in 1917 for his contributions to war charities.

George Charles Boldt Sr. 

(April 25, 1851 – December 5, 1916) was a Prussian-born American hotelier. A self-made millionaire, he influenced the development of the urban hotel as a civic social center and luxury destination.

Inspirational quotes to make your life no longer confused

This is a realistic society, feelings can’t be eaten as food, and poor couples are sad. Don’t believe the storyline in the movie, it’s just a place for many strangers to hustle and bustle emotions. Only irrational and unrealistic people believe.

Set goals for yourself, one year, two years, five years, maybe you were born not as good as others, but through hard work, you can often change 70% of your destiny. Remember, broken cans can only be friends with the cowardly.

Friends invite you to dinner, don’t take it for granted, please be courteous, otherwise your reputation will get worse and worse.

Among good friends, you must cultivate a confidant. Don’t think that you are so exquisite and you are friends everywhere. In the end, there is only one who truly treats you, trust me.

Don’t believe in fortune-telling, constellation and numerology, it is to coax children, and fate is in your own hands. Sitting at home and waiting for a house or car, it is better to sleep and have a good dream.

People we don’t like should be contacted less, but don’t speak ill of others behind your back. People who like to gossip must be a gossiper. Remember, disaster always comes out of your mouth.

Play less games, this is not Korea, you can’t hit the house, the car, and the capital. You can have hobbies, but grasp the scale and play less farm, ranch, landlord fighting and other highly attractive promotion games. Maybe your level is very high, but it doesn’t mean how successful you are. On the contrary, it will affect and occupy the time of your success.

People have inertia, which is inherent, but we can change this inertia, because many people are changing. Don’t wait for someone else to do it before saying: “I just thought of it” for a certain thing or business. Don’t wait until others have already made money to say: “I just want to do it.” No one believes in the market and opportunities, and what everyone believes in is called inflation.

Know what you want to do? In the dead of night, you should ask yourself what your future plans are, and move in that direction to realize them. Instead of doing nothing and doing unnecessary things.

Way out? When you go out, there is always a way. Difficulties? It must be difficult to be stuck at home all day.

As a woman, don’t think that you are better than others because of your age and qualifications. Think that your career has nothing to do with yourself, and don’t think that you are just washing clothes, cooking, and looking after your children. That would be a big mistake.

To be a human being, to be accomplished; filial piety is the priority in all things, teach children the way of character, husband and wife are harmonious and beautiful, and happiness is forever. But these are not things that can be done just by talking about them. To do this in the early years of liberation requires a lot of effort and hard work. Today’s realistic society requires you to pay a lot of money, and smart people know this truth.

Don’t often go online to do boring things and play some meaningless games in your free time. Read some literary works, learn some business processes, management practices, international current affairs, and legal common sense. This will ensure that you will be able to talk at any gathering.

I would rather kill a thousand times by mistake from all aspects of the information, and I will not miss any chance of success. Only then will you not buy regret medicine.

Classic inspirational quotes Ver.3

It’s not that the more people you know, the better. Don’t squeeze in a circle that can’t be squeezed; Don’t use it as bragging capital to know who has seen whom. Keep your anger and don’t go to others, the miracles of others have nothing to do with you; Don’t chase what you can’t get, and never pay attention to what makes you angry. Read more, walk more, go to school, go to work, and travel on the road.

Everyone is growing, we will encounter many temptations, suffer many injuries, and see many incredible people and things. Really, we all encounter many wicked people who are selfish and disputed. But no matter what, you must remember, don’t let all this change your heart. Because our initial simplicity is the most precious thing in life. If you don’t change your original intention, you will always be you.

If you cry, your opponent will laugh. If you laugh, your opponent will cry. Life is like an angry bird. Every time you fail, there are always a few pigs laughing. All you must do is to ignore the ridicule and cheer yourself up. Smile confidently, then do what you need to do confidently. Be brave, it’s no big deal!

We must not be afraid of failure, we must have the spirit of repeated failures, and regard failure as a stepping-stone to success. When you suffer more failures, you will get closer and closer to success. Of course, you must have enough ability to resist failure, and continue to work hard and enterprising. Self-reliance is like the salt in a dish for a woman, a little less, no problem, no problem at all, the problem is big.

Let the long river of life and history carry memories, let every memory bloom with beautiful waves, the dance melody of youth is leisurely, the drums on the way forward, life is like an ancient battlefield, urging war drums and retreating gongs. As long as the drum in your heart doesn’t stop, there is no reason for you to stop. You can’t sound the gong to retreat until the moment your life stops breathing.

Don’t lose ambitions and desires—This refers to ambitions and desires in a positive state, which can make a person’s power to the fullest, and can force a person to give everything to eliminate all obstacles. They can make people move forward at full speed without worries about the future. Therefore, we should maintain a kind of ambition and desire and don’t throw them away.

In the wind and rain, even if you are blown down, people must dare to crawl forward in the mud. Through all the hardships, even if they are overwhelmed, people must dare to stand upright under the heavy pressure. Time condenses the past into memory. You can look back, but you can’t turn back. All the partings you have and lost cannot be changed. No matter how bad fate is, we must move forward.

In the face of the road of life, I always firmly believe that every person who has the courage to cross the obstacles through the clutter is wonderful everywhere on the road of life. The station on the side of the road is a place for us to rest in life. Stop there for a while, maybe we will meet many passers-by, all because of fate. But most of the passers-by are passing by, but some passers-by make you moved and don’t want to leave.

After facing so many accidents, we know how to persevere; But it’s not just talking about it, you must pay a lot to have it; And on the road of persistence, I have no complaints and no regrets. I always believe in me who insists on walking, even if it looks a little weak, but I have my attitude and I have my persistence. I believe in tomorrow! Believe in love! Will create all miracles.

Classic inspirational quotes Ver.2

If you don’t clench your fist, you don’t know how powerful you are; If you don’t grit your teeth, you don’t know how cruel your persistence is; If you don’t stomp your feet, you don’t know how correct your decisiveness is; If you don’t stare, you don’t know how strong your heart is. The strongest competitiveness has only two words: ACTION.

Chasing dreams should be full of passion, the body is full of energy, and the heart is extraordinarily full, rather than a sickly and depressed person at this moment. Youth, how can it wither away because of a failure, but should be high-spirited, full of conviction, grasp the best years, and fulfil the wishes and dreams made in the past.

Life does not have to be perfect, if it is wonderful. People’s teeth are hard, and their tongues are soft. At the end of life, the teeth are all lost, but the tongue does not fall. Therefore, life can be long if it is soft, but hard is a disadvantage. A soft heart is the greatest improvement in practice. People who generally describe attachments say that your heart is hard, like steel.

You must work hard for what you want, and you must give it to yourself. The deeper you camp about certain things, the more troubled you are, and the more persistent you are about certain people, the tighter the bondage. In the world, there are a few people who are in harmony with the world and a few people have left behind the gains and losses. Only a thought is the scenery, what is forgotten is the smoke and the interpersonal relationship, there are still a few people who remember your smile, and a few people wipe away your tears.

When difficulties come, please raise your left hand, the left hand represents the direction, it will not bow to difficulties; when encountering setbacks, please raise your right hand, the right hand represents hope, it will not be frustration worry. When the left hand claps the right hand, our pace has a rhythm, when the right hand claps the left hand, our strength is active!

When the late wind blows the leaves, spring is waiting to wake up. You leave the footprints of your heart in the dusk, so that the hurried years are also confused. If we were separated in yesterday’s drift, we would rub our shoulders in the wind and not be able to see each other. I will wait for the dawn in the cold night, and bathe in the dawn with you when all things are revived!

Life is understood because of experience. Only if you have suffered from life can you be peaceful and indifferent. If a person has not tasted bitterness, it is difficult to know the taste of sweetness. Facing suffering bravely and overcoming suffering optimistically is also a kind of practice. There is no eternal night, there is no eternal winter, the suffering will eventually pass, and the sun is always behind the wind and rain!

People will always encounter setbacks, there will always be low ebbs, there will be times when they are not understood, there will be times when they are not satisfactory, there will be times when they are sullen. These times are precisely the most critical moments in life. At such a moment, we need to wait patiently and look forward with confidence, believing that life will not abandon you, and destiny will not abandon you. If you can’t stand loneliness, you won’t see the prosperity.

You can be short of money; you can’t be short of virtue. You can lose your word; you can’t lose your trust. You can fall, you can’t kneel. You can ask for a name, you can’t steal a name. You can be low, you can’t fall. You can relax, you can’t indulge. You can be vain; you can’t be hypocritical. You can be ordinary; you can’t be mediocre. You can be romantic; you can’t be debauchery. You can be angry; you can’t make trouble.

Time lurks in the eyes of the years, following the rotation of the four seasons, rhythmicating youth and passion. The years of striving to realize dreams are called youth, and it is always young and young. Dreams are folded paper cranes, flying under the sky of life in the breeze of hope. Tireless, not afraid of risks, eternal faith clinging to that faraway place!

Classic inspirational quotes Ver.1

The joy of success and the satisfaction of harvest are not the end of struggle, but the process of hard work. You must go your own way, no one can replace it. Life is like a boat, vacillating; life is like water, plain and most beautiful; life is like hemp, inextricably linked. Life is as expected, ups and downs; life is like wine, pure but not greasy; life is like bamboo, step by step. Life is to be born and live.

The facts are already established, and you can’t help you decide, and you can’t change them. The only thing we can do is to continuously increase our competitiveness, obtain greater social resources, reduce the negative energy on our body a little bit, and step by step to squeeze ourselves out of the stupid team. Stand taller, even if it’s only a little bit, there will be less choppy around you.

In the journey of life, the best among those women has the courage to strut. They have an open mind and a broad natural future. They don’t blame the sky because of the violent snowstorm, they don’t blame the ground because of their stumbling feet, and they don’t blame others for rubbing shoulders one after another. Raise your chest and clink glasses with thunder; dedicate your blood to fight against the sun, respecting others as yourself, and guarding yourself as you are.

I have admired the splendour of life, and I have been obsessed with the bleakness of the value of life. In my life, there seems to be a lack of the most peaceful colour, and this colour, which cannot be made up for by the day after tomorrow, is born in the beginning. Contradictions exist in everyone, just because of shallow and deep reasons. The spirit is refreshed by you; the look is calm and stable for you.

Persevere in our inner dreams, even if there are real obstacles, so what, take the courage to move forward and fight for the dream. Persevering in one’s dream is not simply an infatuation, nor a rigid determination. It is perseverance and never give up. Do more for your dreams, believe in yourself, you can do it too!

For so many years, I have been at war with my own heart, because I am afraid of falling into sorrow and being rejected by others; however, now I understand that if you cannot love, life is meaningless. I always think that others have the courage to love, but I don’t. However, now I find that I can love. Even if love means farewell to loneliness or sadness, it is worth everything.

I just want to be an ordinary person and don’t want so much burden. I don’t want to experience great joy and sadness, I don’t want to bear too much expectation, I want to make life simple, I want to let myself go with the flow, occasionally quietly fantasizing, and occasionally shallow romance. But too often, I can only bear the burden and be strong alone. In this rushed world, no one has time to take care of you. If you are not strong, who will be brave for you.

Farewell, farewell to myself yesterday. I don’t want to talk about what’s behind me. I just know that every time I turn a page, I don’t want to look back again. How many times have my feet hurt during the journey that I can’t turn back, I just look forward to seeing if I can get a bright day in front of me.

Sometimes we are habitually worried about what will happen tomorrow and what to do and want to solve tomorrow’s worries as soon as possible. But if you really have trouble tomorrow, you will not be able to solve it today. Seriously living in the moment is the truest attitude towards life. Every day, there are daily life lessons to be handed in. It is already very good to work hard to do today’s homework!

Rolls-Royce, this is the only one in the world! Don’t ask yourself if you can do it, just ask yourself if you want it, if you want it, if you want it, you can, if you can, you can do it. Always remember what you want, not what you fear. The choice is before the action, the action is after the decision! The choice is greater than the effort! The direction is wrong and the effort is in vain!

Your success is defeated by these people!

Don’t spend time with people who make you angry because that person won’t bring you happiness.

Don’t spend time with people who are more mindful because your kindness can’t play with him.

Don’t spend time with people who don’t know how to cherish you, because that person is worthless.

Don’t spend time with people who perfuse you because you can’t get the sincerity from them.

Don’t spend time with people who tell lies because you are always living in his deception.

If you want to live happily, please stay away from such people. People who don’t understand gratitude are more terrible than wolves, and they do and cherish it!

Please stay away from these people:-

Unfilial Type

Don’t respect your parents, even insult, beat and scold your parents. This is the first kind of people who are inferior to beasts!

Beast Type

When such a person opens his mouth to borrow money from a friend, he can’t wait to kneel down, pat his chest, express gratitude and promise to repay the money on time. When it came time to pay the money, he avoided seeing him, shirking for various reasons, even shutting down and avoiding it, refusing to pay back the money.

Unethical Type

He is happy when you help him, he turns back when you don’t help him, and when he involves a little benefit, he will immediately be a black-faced person.

Disaster Type

He doesn’t know how to respect others, he is self-centred. In the past few years, he has been speculative, got some money, and met a few government officials. He feels that everyone is inferior to himself. He is accustomed to people who base their happiness on the suffering of others, and he is annoyed by his own interests that harm everyone’s interests. He wants you get trouble every day! He likes to show off his achievements in front of the weak.

Ungrateful Type

You did 9 things well for him in 10 things, and if one thing was not as good as his intention, he turned his face. When getting along with people, he never remembers what others treat him well, only the things that are not good for him. He has never been grateful for what his friends have helped him or paid for.

If you hand over the above kinds of people, your life will basically be ruined in half.

Be sure to make four friends as below: –

  1. Appreciate your friends: Encourage you and help you when you are down and disappointments.
  2. Friends with positive energy: Accompany you when you are sad and uncomfortable.
  3. Friends who lead you: Willing to lead you selflessly through the mud and fog.
  4. Friends who can criticize you: Always remind you, supervise you, and don’t want your life to stumble.

Life can’t ignore every step

“Even a snail will eventually reach its destination.”
― Gail Tsukiyama ―

God gave a young man a task to take a snail for a walk.

The young man can’t go too fast, the snail has tried his best to crawl, always moving a little bit every time. He urged the snail, frightened it, and blamed it.

Snail looked at him with a sorry look and said, “I have tried my best. I have to go step by step.”

The young man pulls the snail, pulls it, he even wants to kick the snail. The snail was injured, it was sweating, panting, and crawling forward step by step.

“It’s strange, why did God ask me to take a snail for a walk?” He thought, “God! Why?”

The sky is quiet. “Oh! Maybe God went to catch the snail? Well, let go! Anyway, God doesn’t care, what am I going to do? The snail can go wherever he wants.”

The young man allowed the snail to crawl forward, and he sulked behind. Huh? He smelled the scent of flowers, and it turned out that there was a garden by the side of the road. Slowly, he heard the birds sound, he heard the birds are singing, and he saw the sky full of beautiful stars. Huh? Why didn’t he have this experience before? Could it be that he made a mistake? The young man suddenly understood why God told him to take a snail for a walk.

The foreign language of the book: God let the snail take the young man for a walk means that people should take every step of the day.

“People walk step by step, and you can’t ignore every step.”

By Yao Ming

The secret of success—-Two ants

“If an ant carries an object a hundred times its weight, you can carry burdens many times your size.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

The two ants were very unfortunate and strayed into the glass.

They flustered around the bottom of the glass, trying to find a gap to climb out. Soon, they found out that this was impossible.

So, they began to climb up along the wall of the cup. It seems that this is the only path to freedom.

However, the surface of the glass was so smooth that they fell heavily as soon as they climbed two steps.

They rubbed their aching bodies, got up, and climbed up again. Soon, they fell heavily to the bottom of the cup again.

Three times, four times, five times … once, seeing that they were about to climb to the mouth of the cup, unfortunately, the last step failed, and this time it hurt more than any time.  

It took them a long time to catch their breath. An ant rubbed his ass and said: “We can’t take any more risks. Otherwise, it will fall to pieces.” The other ant said, “Just now, are we not only one step away from victory?” Then he started climbing again.

Falling again and again, climbing again and again, he touched the edge of the cup mouth in the end, and with the last bit of strength, he turned over the transparent wall.

Across the glass, the ant in the cup asked both enviously and enviously: “Tell me, what is the secret of your success?”

The ant outside the cup replied: “It may be the most difficult when approaching success, and whoever does not lose confidence in the most difficult time may win.”

The ants in the cup were inspired and encouraged, no longer afraid of being hurt by falling, and they began to climb again. They eventually climbed out of the glass and rendezvoused with another ant.

And the important factor why the little ant cannot give up is that it has the belief that it will win. If it adheres to the belief that it will win in setbacks, it will not lose the power to persist.

How to turn a hobby or interest into a career?

“If I have a passion I can achieve, it’s probably less a passion and something more akin to a hobby, for any real passion must bigger than my ability to achieve it.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

Interest, is it possible to become a career?

Once upon a time, one of my friend called Frendy is hooked on PS, and when he was free from work, he turned on the computer and pondered for himself. Now, in addition to simple keying to change the background, and difficult picture processing, it was a cinch for him.

So, friends all ridiculed: “Your technology is so mature now, just change your career to do art!” Frendy replied solemnly: “Although I am very interested in PS, I am not sure I will like it once I do such a job, and I am not sure how well I can do in the work I am interested in…”

In the profession, many people talk about their interests. Some people say, “Interest is the best teacher, so you have to do what you are interested in.” Some people say, “Interest can never become a profession, it can only be an amateur.” Others said: “I am interested in a lot of things, I like history, psychology, photography, … in addition to my work.” ……

So, can interests and occupations only be taken one? The answer is no. In fact, using your interests as a career can maximize your potential and motivation. If it is said that using interest as a profession will destroy interest, it can only mean that it is not a real interest, but a short-term obsession.

If you like to drink, you can study carefully and strive to become a professional taster;

If you like to tell stories, then try to work hard on the road to becoming a screenwriter;

If you like sushi,then play the spirit of the craftsman and become the god of sushi.

If you like to drink, you can study carefully and strive to become a professional taster;

If you like to tell stories, then try to work hard on the road to becoming a screenwriter;

If you like sushi,then play the spirit of the craftsman and become the god of sushi.

Jiro Ono, born in 1925, is the world’s oldest Michelin three-star sushi chef, and his status in Japan is also quite noble. Throughout his life, he has been making sushi for more than 56 years, so his spirit and skills in sushi are also the first in the world.

Jiro Ono once said, “Once you decide on your occupation…you must immerse yourself in your work.You have to fall in love with your work.Never complain about your job.You must dedicate your life to mastering your skill.That’s the secret of success…and is the key to being regarded honorably.” Such a dedicated, strict, and pursuit of excellence has made a generation of masters.

It can be seen that with your enthusiasm and professional craftsman spirit, interests and hobbies can achieve a career.

Why once you turn your interest into a career, you don’t have interest?

Many people have the urge to develop their interests into careers, but they just stay on impulse, and in the end, they did not make such a choice, just like Frendy. What’s the reason?

Summarized the following four reasons:

“People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.”
― Steve Maraboli

Anxiety due to not meeting the competency requirements

Because most people don’t have many requirements for their interests and hobbies, but after becoming a profession, people’s requirements for this matter will increase. For example, if you like to host, it doesn’t matter if you forget your words on the live broadcast on Yingke, and if you become the anchor of the news network, you will feel powerless and incompetent, and then it is easy to be anxious.

In order to meet the requirements of competency, frustration in the process of raising the level

After anxiety, people began to strive to improve their abilities and strengthen their professional skills. However, it is the same in any field. The closer you are to the top level, the more efforts are required, and the effect of improvement is less obvious. This trend is easy to cause frustration and negative emotions.

After upgrading the level,the return obtained by paying is not up to expectations and the loss is generated

When we experience frustration, we may get better and get a certain income as a result. But people always have a psychological expectation of earnings. If the income brought is less than their own expectations, they will think that they have made their interests and hobbies a career choice and paid a lot, while other people who have a common hobby with themselves have not chosen this career but have earned much more than themselves. In the long run, it is easy to retreat.

Do not want to lose yourself for professional literacy, resulting in depression

Once you put your interests on the path of professionalism, you will be dominated by more other factors, thus losing your autonomy for this interest. Akira Toriyama, the author of “Dragon Ball”, when he drew the section “Defeating the Great Devil”, he felt that the story could end here, but the editor Torishima Kazuhiko came to the door and said that the reader liked it, and it was not allowed to end. Akira Toriyama said that Sun Wukong is already the strongest on earth, how to draw again? Torishima Kazuhiko said: Let him be the strongest in the universe.

In the end, many people said that Dragon Ball’s worldview was inconsistent, and that the Buou war after Shalu was a dog’s tail. But Akira Toriyama himself was helpless, but there was nothing he could do.

If you want to turn your interest into a career, you must overcome the negative emotions brought about by the above four situations.

Below, let’s talk with everyone about how to turn your interest into a career that can make a living.

“If you create and market a product or service through a business that is in alignment with your personality, capitalizes on your history, incorporates your experiences, harnesses your talents, optimizes your strengths, complements your weaknesses, honors your life’s purpose, and moves you towards the conquest of your own fears, there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY that anyone in this or any other universe can offer the same value that you do!”

By Walt F.J. Goodridge

Find what you really like

To turn your interest into a career, the first thing to do of course is to find what you really like. So, in the end, how can you really like it?

To lose weight, run fitness and practice yoga every day, is this really a favourite thing? Does not count. Because these things have a certain utilitarianism-in order to be thin, it is difficult to stick to it.

And what you really like should be the kind of thing you can’t help but want to do, spending time, energy, money, and thinking about it, and enjoying it. There is a saying in “Slam Dunk Master”: “It is very happy to play basketball, but victory can increase the happiness a hundred times.” When paying attention to the latter sentence, “victory increases happiness”, don’t forget to look at the previous sentence-back to the beginning, whether there is a victory or not, playing basketball itself can make you happy.

When you find your point of interest, you can make unremitting efforts in this direction, thereby cultivating professional nirvana that can support your survival.

If you want to cultivate nirvana, you must clarify your talents and interests, and then invest a lot of time at the intersection of hobbies and strengths. Not everyone succeeds by the same method. Not everything requires a high degree of talent, but it is undeniable that the combination of talent and interest will make our persistence easier and easier to get results.

So, how can we find what we really like?

American writer Stephen P.Robbins put forward five steps for a rational decision-making in the book “Decision Making”. I selected three of the more practical steps, hoping to help everyone clarify their talents and interests:

Determine the only clear goal

For example, you want to be a translator, or a teacher … too many options will greatly consume our self-control and miss opportunities in hesitation repeatedly. Therefore, a clear goal can prevent getting lost in the jungle of choice.

Understand

For example, when someone, who has been with you for many years, cheated again before marriage, you can’t let go of the feelings you have invested for many years and break up with someone. This falls into the trap of the sunk cost paradox. Like this psychology, it is easy for us to go further and further on the wrong path, and blindly adhere to what we neither like nor are good at. In fact, it is wise to stop loss in time.

Control the impact of emotions

Sometimes, we feel anxious because of the pressure of our peers; or we feel irritated because of the urging of our families. This kind of positive or negative emotions will have a great impact on the quality of our decision-making. At this point, what you must do is calm yourself down, distinguish the emotions from the facts, and then analyse them. Think back to your only long-term goal, and maybe you can make a few regretful decisions less.

How to make your interests provide value to others?

As mentioned in the topic of “turning interests into careers”, to make our interests provide value to others, don’t revel in the world of self: how beautiful my interests are, how great my dreams are, and how noble my feelings are … but think about it in turn, what can I do for others, this is the core of interest becoming a means of earning a living.

For example, if you like makeup, you are beautiful, and no one will pay for you, but if you teach others how to become beautiful and how to make up, someone will be willing to pay.

In other words, to turn your interest into a job, you can’t just consume it. You must create, share, and spread it. You must share the experience and skills you have invested time, energy, and money in your interests with your peers and provide them with value.

Many times, the reason why we say we don’t know what our interests are is because we don’t want to admit our interests. Because of some interests, it may not be recognized by society and culture, for example, watching plays, chasing stars, chatting gossip, playing games…but if you like it enough, there is a possibility of becoming a job.

If you want to turn your interest in Korean dramas into a job, you can’t just stay at the level of watching Korean dramas all day long. For example, Miss C, a drama madman, began to write drama reviews to express her concern about the drama, and then tried to write scripts, and finally went to the film and television company to make TV series. At this time, she no longer just followed the plot to cry and laugh at the audience but became the person who created the plot and guided others ‘ emotional ups and downs.

If you like to track star gossip, but just browse and forward such pastime behaviour, you will never make a breakthrough, but if you can open a gossip account, collect, organize, and share gossip information, keep up with hot spots, and research accurately, you will become a creator from a consumer, and creation is much more valuable than consumption.

Similarly, liking games can also become a job. If you just play well on your own, it is of no value to others, but if you can write game raiders, teach others how to play better, and even learn to develop games, things will be different.

One of the keys to turning your interest into a job is that you have to be not afraid to let others know who you are and what you really like.

Of course, after discovering your true self, you can also provide value to others, and you are one step closer to success.

Seize the opportunity

“In case you never get a second chance: don’t be afraid!” “And what if you do get a second chance?” “You take it!”
― C. JoyBell C.

In this day and age, it seems that it takes a little bit to do anything, especially to turn your interest into a career.

I have heard such a story:

There was a girl who was particularly talented in planning. Her freshman year, she became the Deputy Minister of the Ministry of Arts and Culture. She participated in the planning of the college’s orientation party, graduate party, and other large and small activities. In his sophomore year, he began to start an operation planning company with senior seniors. Although this made her an alternative in medical colleges, she always knew what she was going to do.

However, after graduation, she has lost the fierceness of being a newborn calf and not afraid of tigers and has become less confident after seeing more. Once, a company was recruiting talents in this area of market planning. The girl is in a dilemma. She likes the content of planning this post, but she is afraid of being rejected.

After hesitating and struggling all night, she finally decided to challenge her the next day. As a result, the same night that the resume was submitted, the headquarters replied to her. The other party asked her a few questions on the phone, and she answered very appropriately. Although she has not yet received a clear answer, the other party has the intention of throwing an olive branch to her.

If you hesitate anymore, the opportunity will pass. It can be said that hard work will not necessarily succeed, but hesitation and retreat will not succeed. Wang Anshi once said: “The magnificent, weird, and extraordinary view of the world often lies in peril, and people are rare, so people who have no ambitions can’t come.” You can’t see the scenery you want without firm determination.

Admittedly, opportunities are indeed very important, the so-called “plan things in people, do things in heaven”. But opportunities are often accidental and uncontrollable. To seize the opportunity, we need to be fully prepared, for example, to lay a solid foundation and reserve knowledge, etc., and these are precisely what we can control.

The fool misses the opportunity, the wise seize the opportunity, the successful create the opportunity, and the opportunity is only given to those who are prepared. So, how do we be a prepared person? This is what we are going to say next-to enhance strength and enhance professional skills.

Improve professional skills,from amateur enthusiasts to professionals

I believes that if you want to change from amateur to professional, you should complete at least the following 4 steps:

Learn to improve yourself step by step

“Never stop just because you feel defeated. The journey to the other side is attainable only after great suffering.”
― Santosh Kalwar ― 

Peter Drucker’s Theory of Management, put forward a Smart goal management principle, where the letter A represents “Attainable, that is, the achievability of the goal. For example, the interest in sales makes you an employee in the insurance industry, and your goal is to earn 1 million in a year! Then you must settle an account:

According to the commission ratio, a commission of 1 million will probably have to do 3 million performances. Then it will cost 250,000 a month, and MYR 8,300 a day. In other words, to complete the performance of MYR 8,300, it takes about 50 people to visit every day, and on average, a customer must talk for at least 20 minutes, and 50 customers need more than 16 hours, which is not counting the road time. Can you do it?

Therefore, the goal cannot be imagined out of thin air, but needs to be set by a plan that can be achieved. In other words, you can’t think about things from 100 to 1000 at the stage of going from 0 to 1.

Enough focus

“Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
Focus on your character, not your reputation.
Focus on your blessings, not your misfortunes.”
― Roy T. Bennett

Concentration is to gather all your time, mind, physical strength, wisdom, and thoughts on one thing day after day, year after year, and persevere. This is also what the law of specialization wants to tell us: only if you are specialized in a field can you develop. So, no matter what industry you do, you must aim at being the top of the industry. Only when you can specialize will you grow up to be outstanding.

Malie Kondo, a famous finishing consultant in Japan, began reading housewives’ magazines from kindergarten to the third grade of junior high school. When she was 19 years old, she set up her own consulting company to provide finishing solutions for customers who need to organize their office and living environments. In 2010, Malie Kondo wrote a book about her experience in tidying up her room. Once published, it was translated into many languages and became popular all over the world.

Just because she does housework, she is sought after by the world. It is because Kondo specializes in storage that she has done an ordinary but necessary thing to the extreme, solving the problems of housewives around the world.

Repeated and productive efforts

“Becoming an influential personality at work is much more important than becoming a hardworking person!”
― Abhishek Ratna

They all say that everyone is equal in front of the work face, but the one who eventually succeeds will never have to work hard behind them. Take actress Sun Li,her several hit dramas “Zhen Huan Biography”, “Hot Mom Biography”, and “Mi Yue Biography” all made her a hot topic for the audience. The key factor lies in her hard-working attitude to life:

When “Zhen Huan Chuan” hit the air, director Zheng Xiaolong once said: “In the filming process of “Zhen Huan Chuan” for more than 4 months, she never had a complete meal with Sun Li. Everyone ate together. She always left halfway through eating and went back to recite her lines.”

When filming “Hot Mom Biography”, Sun Li said in an interview that she really spent three years studying the script, lines, and performance of the play.

When it came to “Mi Yue Biography”, members of her family revealed on Weibo that Sun Li was frantically memorizing her lines and the news of the play at home before filming.

There is a famous “repetition law” that also reveals this truth: any behaviour and thinking, if you continue to repeat, it will continue to strengthen, and finally enter a person’s subconscious, and become a fact, the so-called practice makes perfect. The military parade on September 3 last year was a good example. It is said that the troops participating in the exercise started training for 10 hours a day as early as January, and finally achieved the wonderful performance of the military parade troops.

Seeing this, should I review it well? The “I have worked hard” that I often talk about may be just a flash, or is it just a verbal expression, just a flash in my heart, turning around but throwing it away again?

Summary

A lot of things to play amateur, we will find it very interesting, but when we think of it as a profession, we will feel that we can’t do it anymore. Because for interests and hobbies, people usually only spend 20% of their energy, they can achieve 60% of their achievements, and it is easy to obtain satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment; but if they develop their interests into careers, they may have to spend 120% of their energy to achieve 80% of their achievements at the professional level.

Therefore, to turn our interest into a career, we need to make up our minds to do the following steps:

Do these four points, basically, you can turn your interest into a career.

“My goals may seem impossibly far-fetched when really they’re not.

Break them down into steps and see how I accomplish great things.

I can easily reach from A to B.

I can manage from B to C.

I can then make it from C to D.

And so eventually, I will find my way from A to Z.”

By Richelle E. Goodrich

Comfort zone binding your freedom

“If you always do what is easy and choose the path of least resistance, you never step outside your comfort zone. Great things don’t come from comfort zones.”

By Roy Bennett

What keeps binding your freedom?  Is your comfort zone.

Bravely step out of the comfort zone, looking for a better world and a better self!

Everyone has their own comfortable circle. The so-called comfort zone is in your familiar circle, facing familiar people and things.

The comfort zone is like a circle, with your friends, family, everything in your life, where you live, where you work, and so on. We live in our own comfortable circle every day, because we feel free, relaxed and safe to stay in our own comfort zone.

With a comfortable circle, I think probably everyone wants to stay in their own circle, and they don’t want to change their current life and routine without anything.

“We are so accustomed to the comforts of “I cannot”, “I do not want to” and “it is too difficult” that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us, we are not achieving greatness. We have made ourselves weak.”

By Pandora Poikilos

However, if one day we encounter something that needs to step out of our comfort zone, have you ever thought about what will happen to you?

“Will be afraid”

“I don’t have the courage”

“I’m afraid of making mistakes”

“I’m afraid of strangers”

Is that what you think?

“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

By Roy T. Bennett

I once read a sentence: “Humans have a natural fear of the world outside the circle, because strangeness makes them seem to have come to an uninhabited desert island.”

Yes, if we leave the comfort zone, we will be afraid and fearful, because things outside the circle are very strange to us and will make us feel a strong sense of insecurity.

But if you are afraid, how can you improve?

In our lives, we will inevitably encounter some things outside our comfort zone that require us to muster the courage to face. And these things are a way that we must go through when we grow up, and they are also a way that will enable us to truly grow.

new environment

“Ends are not bad things, they just mean that something else is about to begin. And there are many things that don’t really end, anyway, they just begin again in a new way. Ends are not bad and many ends aren’t really an ending; some things are never-ending.”

By C. JoyBell C.

We must understand that “The end of one thing means the beginning of another. At the turning point of this process, there is something everyone needs to learn called adapting to the new environment. For example, after graduating from high school, you must adapt to the new environment of the university, and you must adapt to the new working environment when you change jobs.

For people who live in their comfort zone, it seems that they can’t learn the lesson of adapting to the new environment. They are unwilling to jump out of their circles and re-examine the new environment. What are they afraid of?

Having your own comfort zone is about the same as having your own social circle. Staying with friends you know can be very free and free, and there is no restriction at all. However, in the new environment, they are afraid of being alone because they are not brave enough to make new friends. The reason is that in this process, apart from taking the initiative, it also depends on whether the other party is willing to accept himself.

“Like an animal, I adapted to the world around me until it became my norm. This is me now. I’m a killer…”

By Arti Manani

If they step out of their comfort zone, they will have a lot of worries. For example, worry about whether you will not adapt to the new environment, whether you will be unpleasant in the new environment, and so on. Because of too many concerns, they are unwilling to try to take that step.

But life is all about you not working hard, if you never take that step, you will always live in your own circle. You will never make progress in this way, and you will never learn new things. If you are willing to step out of your own circle, you will find that things outside the circle are nothing more than that. Things will not be worse than imagined, but people always need a little time to adapt. Chinese people always said: “There must be a road before the car reaches the mountain, when the boat gets to the pier-head, it will go straight with the current”, mean everything will be all right, and the new environment will always force us to grow up.

Challenge yourself

Do you like to challenge something you dare not do? Such as extreme challenges, horror film challenges. If so, then your life must be wonderful.

“The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

By Roy T. Bennett

But I believe that people who like to live in their comfort zone must be reluctant to challenge some things they dare not do, because they are reluctant to overcome psychological fears.

Here I can only say that if you are unwilling to try to challenge yourself, you will never know how powerful you are. It only takes you a brave step to discover that things are not as scary and difficult as you imagined. But if you are unwilling to challenge something you have never done before, you may never know how difficult it is.

Therefore, many people like to challenge themselves to extreme challenges, because they want to test how brave they are, and want to overcome their fears to discover and enjoy the beauty of the moment. If you overcome the fear in your heart, you will discover a new and beautiful world, and you will also reap a new brave yourself.

“True potential for growth is measured by your willingness to let go of what you think you know, and embrace something seemingly contrary, thereby, challenging yourself to go higher. It is impossible to learn something new without rejecting something old.”

By C. Orville McLeish

independent

“Life is a process during which one initially gets less and less dependent, independent, and then more and more dependent.”

By Mokokoma Mokhonoana

What kind of talent is considered independent? It is undoubtedly that you can support yourself on your own, not relying on others too much. Independence is the process of discovering oneself, discovering that there is a most loyal friend, that is oneself. If things are within my control, then I don’t have to rely on others, I can rely on myself.

It is impossible for a person to be independent at birth. Independence is cultivated slowly, and it all depends on experience. How can I become an independent person? It is undoubtedly to continue to accept challenges and face failures.

It is not that people living in their comfort zone cannot be independent at all, but what they can be independent is also the things in their comfort zone. If something unexpected happens, they may become anxious and uneasy. The reason is simple, that is, they are usually unwilling to challenge things outside the circle, causing them to accumulate insufficient experience to face unexpected situations.

If you are willing to step out of your comfort zone, you will face a variety of problems, and these problems must always fail when you overcome them in the first place. But even if you fail, you will gain new experience from it, so it won’t be so difficult the next time you overcome it. Stepping out of your comfort zone must be your right choice.

“You must always overcome your comfort zone”

By Sunday Adelaja

For the outside world, the unknown is indeed too frightening. It is indeed very difficult for people to get out of the inherent comfort zone. Many people dare not try because they feel that they do not have enough ability to face the difficulties outside the circle. Many people tried to go out, but faced Lou Ci’s failure, which led to denial of the world outside the circle. So, it takes a lot of courage and strength to get out of your comfort zone. Perhaps there will be someone in your life who will pull you out of your comfort zone and make you a better version of yourself.

Although stepping out of the comfort zone will make us easy to make mistakes, only when we make mistakes can we learn new things from it. It is impossible to expand our horizons by moving around in a circle that we are familiar with. Only when we cross the line of the circle can we increase our knowledge and build a better self. In this way, our small circle can be drawn bigger and bigger, and can contain more things.

Get out of your comfort zone and discover more little things!

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.”

By Jim Morrison

The harder you work, the luckier you are!

“If you don’t give up on something you truly believe in, you will find a way.”
By Roy T. Bennett

To you who are chasing dreams: “Don’t give up if you have a dream!”

“What is your dream? Which one do you choose, dream or reality? Five years of pursuit, the answer is still unclear, no matter how you must continue to walk on thorns.”

When we were young, we were often asked by most people: “What is your dream?”

Yes, everyone has their own dreams and what they want to be in the future, but many times life is not what they want. You are happy when you imagine realizing your dreams in the future, but often reality will ruthlessly crush your beautiful imagination.

Choosing between dream and reality is like choosing between a job you like and a job with a ‘money’ job. How would you choose? I believe that most people will choose the most popular job and give up the job they like, because we all think that interest cannot be used as a meal. So, in the same way, dreams and reality, I believe most people will choose to rely on reality.

“Why don’t you try to do what you like?”

What is your reason? “Family situation is not ideal”, “Family does not support”, “I want to take a stable road”, is this your reason?

Nothing can stop you from doing what you like, so don’t find reasons to convince yourself. No road is always smooth, because such a road is meaningless. We only live this time. If we choose the path we want, we must go on no matter how difficult it is.

“I have walked a lot and got a lot of marginalization. The same is being yourself but being used to compare. I have stepped into this society before it has transformed, just treat all the injuries you have suffered as tuition fees.”

We often encounter many setbacks and blows on the way to growth. These are all good things; setbacks will force us to grow and know how to deal with problems.

And those who grow up with us must have people who like and don’t like us. We often do our truest self, but we somehow hear others talking about ourselves behind our backs. We can’t control their thoughts, but we can control our own lives. Your own life is up to you to make decisions, and you no need change yourself to please others, because no matter how you change, others can’t be satisfied with yourself.

“Don’t care, the so-called gossip; Keep your initial heart, be firm and don’t doubt it.”

On the road to chasing dreams, there will inevitably be doubts, because we have no strength, and others don’t want to believe us. But we can’t just give up in pursuit of dreams, we must prove ourselves and let them know that those who are willing to unconditionally support themselves when they have nothing have made the right choice!

When chasing dreams, we are often influenced by the outside world and it is easy for us to give up, because our beliefs are not firm enough, so we often give up halfway. It only takes a second to give up, but when you want to give up, ask yourself first, “Why did you do this in the first place”, always remember and feel the beginning of the initial heart.

Persisting all the way until now, you can’t give up so easily. “Why do I think to give up when I try so hard?” If every time you can’t adhere to, tell yourself: “Insist on for a while”, you may find that it is not difficult to persist.

Colorful world, just need to maintain the initial heart, I believe that it is not difficult to persist!

“The road ahead has never been clear, how can the darkness of the world let me follow my heart.”

“I don’t know how much darkness this road is, nor how many turns this road has; if you go forward and don’t look back, you will never be impatient, and you will never find the wrong answer.”

“Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others.”

By Roy T. Bennett

People who have dreams it’s not because they know what the future will be then they have a dream. People with dreams are full of longing for the future, but they don’t know what will change in the future. So, people who are brave to chase dreams are brave, because they know nothing about the future but persist on to the dream to move forward.

Dream chasers firmly believe that the end of this road is good, bright, and promising, so they will not look back, if they do not look back, the decisions they make will not be wrong.

A really easy way to walk is not a broad road, but a trail, because you can gain more experience as you walk through as many turning road.

“You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness. Never give up.”

By  Richelle E. Goodrich

#The journey of chasing dreams is worth rushing for us!

What is a dream?

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

By H. Jackson Brown Jr.

I believe that everyone has great dreams.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”
By Walt Disney

What is dream? There is no need to think too complicated, the dream is that simple! If you are willing to dream, anything can become your dream! Dream is a kind of expectation for the future, the goal that I want to achieve in my heart. Such as career and love and so on. Thinking in dreams is sometimes equal to ideals.

What is the most common problem we heard from others since we were young? Whether it is a teacher, a parent, or a relative or friend, from their mouths we can most often hear them asking us:-

“What do you like to do?”

“What do you want to do in the future?”

“What kind of person do you want to be?”

Of course, the questions that cannot be skipped are undoubtedly:

“What is your dream?”

And when they ask you these questions, do you feel overwhelmed and wonder how to answer them? Don’t need to think too complicated, the dream is actually very simple. If it is something or something you want or desire to happen, then it is your dream.

“The moment you put a deadline on your dream, it becomes a goal.”
By Harsha Bhogle

Dream is the life you yearn for. Everyone has a life that everyone yearns for, and everyone has different pursuits for the life they yearn for. We often imagine what our future life will be like, whether it is a comfortable and relaxing paradise life, a fulfilling and wonderful life, or a busy urban life.

The dream does not have to be the accomplishment of something that everyone admires, and the life you dream of in the future can also be your dream. For example, could buy the house of dreams, harvest the desired love, get the ideal job, and so on. When you have illusions about life, your life will be motivated, and this motivation will push you toward your goals, and at the same time make you to be a better person.

Sometimes others will laugh at your dream life, but it belongs to you alone and is unique. So, you don’t need to pay too much attention to other people’s perspectives, just let yourself live the life you want!

What kind of person do you want to be? The most common answer is undoubtedly ‘I want to be a singer’, ‘I want to be a painter’, ‘I want to be a doctor’ and so on. Yes, the dream is the person you want to be.

There are many special reasons. Many people dream of being who they want to be, such as singers, actors, and painters. However, most people think that such fantasies are too unreal, and not everyone has a certain degree. Ability and strength can be taken, so they only dare to have illusions and not dare to pursue them. Maybe you who are reading this article have the same idea?

The way we want to be in the future seems to be far away from us, it seems unreal, and it doesn’t seem to be true, but at the same time it is very close to us, because if we work hard, it will be realized. Although you may find it impossible, many people have done it. They can, why can’t you?

“Dreams don’t work unless you take action. The surest way to make your dreams come true is to live them.”

By Roy T. Bennett

Many people may not realize it. In fact, a simple sentence: “I want to be a happy person” can also be your dream. Maybe your current life cannot make you a happy person, so your dream is to be a happy, happy, carefree person. Similarly, some people have been particularly humorous and funny since they were young, so their dream is to be a funny person in the future, hoping to bring joy to those around them. So, if you dare to dream, you are willing to dream, then anything can become your dream.

Don’t know if you found it? A dream can be something you have always liked to do, and it is something you want to do for a lifetime.

Our lives are always looking for what we like to do. What I liked to do when I was young may be different from what I like to do when I grow up, because people will grow up and people will change. We try to understand and touch everything, because we are always thinking about what we really like to do. And when you find something, you really like to do, you will want to treat it as something you have been doing all your life, then this is your dream.

In order not to let the future self-live so tired, some people will want to turn what they want to do for a lifetime into their lifelong career, because doing what they love does not feel hard. Of course, on the contrary, some people do not want to turn what they like to do into their own work, because work brings pressure to our lives, so if they turn what they like to do into an infinite cycle of work every day, then it will become a kind of pressure.

“Dream your own dreams, achieve your own goals. Your journey is your own and unique.”

By Roy T. Bennett

People always have dreams.

Many people think that dreams are ‘dream’ and ‘fantasy’, both of which are unreal and unrealistic. But dreams have special magic power, that is, they can become the driving force of a person’s life. People must have dreams to live, because it gives people a direction and gives them the motivation to sprint towards the goal.

If people have no dreams, their lives will become meaningless, hopeless, and goalless. Dreams are people’s beautiful expectations. Because dreams are beautiful, so dreams come true has become the most desirable thing for people.

If you have certain goals and ideas for the future, anything can become your dream.

Those who have dreams are very bless.

Oh, dreams, dreams, dreams…….

How wonderful and fearful it is to realize these dreams!

But aren’t they just make life thrilling and worth living?

Most of us are afraid of crossing the safety line.

We are so obsessed with a safe and secure life that we just use this life to survive instead of living!

Yes, fear is normal. It’s scary to do something you can’t guarantee!

However, if it allows you to realize your dreams, is it worth the risk?

If crosses and leaps will cause your soul and heart to become more fulfilling, is it worth fighting for?

We must be the masters of our lives

Life needs to be under your own control, or you must control yourself sooner or later. The influence of others on you is just a reference for your life. If we can’t even control our own life, then your life will ultimately be a failed life. Life is our own business, and where we should go in the future, we need to make our own choices. Others are just passing by, and we are the masters of life.

A story is only the cutest when it becomes a story. If we restore it to reality, then we will not find the original poetic feeling and hazy beauty! Sometimes, we like to think of our life as a story. We are all people who live in stories, and we are all people who have stories. Perhaps in stories, we will like ourselves more. Life is our own business, if we feel happy, we can think whatever we want.

We must learn to release ourselves, not to be a depressed person, and to keep silent in our hearts, but we must also learn to restrain ourselves. It is an irrational behavior to make a noise in front of others because of a momentary unhappiness.  If you make a big noise in front of others, it will only cause others’ full distress and your own unhappiness. Life is our own business, we don’t need to think about it, we won’t be happy either. In this case, don’t interfere with others, just as you don’t want to be interfered by others. Life is our own business, and sometimes we need to learn how to choose. If two people with different values reluctantly stay together, they will only gradually lose the values that they adhere to. In life, it takes a lot of courage to choose whether to leave or not. You need to make your own decisions, and others can’t help you.

We must learn how to let go. Sometimes, you feel that your existence is a mistake. If the other person thinks so too, then it’s time for you to leave. Continuing to persist will only cause unnecessary distress to the other party and your own uncomfortableness. Maybe we have abandoned others, maybe we have been abandoned by others. Sometimes life bores us, but also makes us feel depressed or even decadent. If you want to stay decadent in your bones, then no one can save you except yourself.

We must learn not to complain, not to blame others. Sometimes, when the situation is not so good, we will occasionally complain, just like the sea is always there whimpering, complaining that we are not peaceful. If you continue to complain about life and people and things around you like that, then you will live very tired, very tired, and one day, you will be abandoned by life.

We must be good at self-examination. Life is our own business. Why do we have to involve others in disturbing our tranquil heart? If you complain about others because of your own fault or situation, it is irresponsible to yourself and a great insult to others. Never try to target others all the time, and never continue to hate others. Otherwise, one day, you will not know who you are. Life is our own business, why should we push our own business to others? If you want to live with a wonderful life, you need to continue to work hard and make continuous efforts. If it’s your own fault, so don’t accuse others of leaving ungratefully. Life is our own business; we must light our own lights and illuminate the path we choose. There is no need to blame ourselves for the sins we have suffered. If the established facts in this human world can be restored, then the mistakes we have made are worthy of our careful consideration, but as we know this is not the case. In fact, there is no reincarnation in the human world. You will find that life is ridiculous. Many people get along just to get what they need. That’s all.

We don’t have to make unnecessary shadows for ourselves. In fact, the world is not too bad, but we think it is too complicated, and habitually find some reasons to deceive ourselves. Life is our own business, and we have reasons to choose how to make ourselves better, more mature, and more attractive. We need to worry too much in life, but if we want to fly higher, we might as well try to forget the horizon. What you want at that time is your own business, and only you know what you want to do. So sometimes, life and life need individuality, no need for others to point out, and no need for others to participate.

We should let ourselves learn to relax and be relieved. Since birth, each of us has been walking in the same direction. No one will leave the world alive. In the end, we will all turn into loess. There is no need to always use other people’s Success comes to torture yourself, and there is no need to always worry about your failures. We are all irreplaceable individuals. Don’t forget ourselves, and don’t always live in the trivial joys and sorrows of others. In a life, we should have our own world and our own life, and don’t be disturbed by the disturbances of the outside world.

No matter how difficult there are in life, we must face it bravely. We must know that life is not what we want to do, and life is not as good as we think. We will always encounter some Difficult, in the face of difficulties, maybe we will continue as before, maybe we will stop, life is our own, and it depends entirely on ourselves. You can choose to change from now on, or you can stay the same. This sentence itself has no rules from beginning to end. In fact, we all don’t want to be sad, we all want to be happy, but it’s not surprising that we all have an affair with sadness. In life, there are always some pain points. Life is our own business. Don’t place hope on others. We still must take the initiative to face it, bear it, and deal with it.

There are no fixed rules and regulations in life, even we may spend our entire lives trying to look for or learn around, maybe in the end we still unable to understand or absorb what we have learn. If there are no flowers, no sunshine, only the boundless void and darkness, then do you still believe in tomorrow? Life needs to stop on the edge of despair. No one can help us. We are always struggling on the path of self-selection. Therefore, we will stick to it throughout our lives. I believe that one day we will understand and comprehend the principles. Don’t wait until life is slowly becoming dangerous before you start preparing for tomorrow; don’t wait until you discover how much you fail now, and then start busy thinking about the future. Life requires us to make some preparations in advance! Life is our own business, our life needs guidance from others, but we don’t need too much extreme guidance. We must always remember the main axis of life is ourselves.

We must always remember that we are the master of our destiny. Even though we cannot do without the help and support of others throughout our life, we are always habitually trying very hard to cater to others, but in the end, we lose ourselves. Anything, if you are willing, can always become simple. However, many things went against our wishes, and we persisted so unhesitatingly. The world is too big, and life is too complicated. We still must find the direction we like and try hard to fly forward, be true to ourselves and build up the courage to face right and wrong, just because life is our own business, only we know our inner dynamics and what path we want to take.

“Don’t compromise yourself – you’re all you have.”

By John Grisham

With the mentality of never complaining, success is not far from you.

If you really want to live your own personality, please put away your grievances and dissatisfaction attitude every day, calm down and do everything well, then success is not far away from you. At that time, there is no ecstatic joy, and there is no free time to complain. This view is not based on my experience, nor is it a lesson from my failure. To paraphrase an ad slogan, it is just a “mineral water porter”. If you have studied Ma Yun’s life, you will have a new understanding of the “Never Complaining Mindset” and hate how much you missed because of the incomprehensibility and opinions of the past mentality. By the way, complaining can’t change anyone’s life, it can only add chaos to yourself. A person’s true failure does not start from his (her) failure, but from the moment he (she) accuses others.

Jack Ma Yun is a Chinese business magnate, investor and philanthropist. He is the co-founder and former executive chairman of Alibaba Group, a multinational, technology conglomerate. In addition, he co-founded Yunfeng Capital, a private equity firm. Jack Ma is a strong proponent of an open market-driven economy.

In the first 37 years, Ma Yun used the word “failure” to describe it, which is not an exaggeration. 37 years later, he suddenly became “lucky” and succeeded in his career. Is it really that he “become lucky”? The answer is no. Everything in his own words: “The secret is only two words: never complain!” The secret to Jack Ma’s success is only two words, think about it carefully. Is there any successful person whose achievements have been exchanged for full of complaints? Not to mention “Too many complaints make people feel annoying”, even time cannot be wasted, but how many ten or twenty years are there in a person’s life! The time to do something, maybe only up to 40 years. If you waste ten or twenty years by patronizing and complaining, it will determine that a person will accomplish nothing in his life.

Nobody’s success is for no reason, it is the result of concentrated efforts and hard work, and it is by no means the result of getting rich overnight. Even if you get rich overnight by accident, without the experience of calm and steady hands, the wealth you get by accident will continue to drain, and you will not be able to hold your wealth in the end. Having a mentality of never complaining does not mean that he (she) has no thoughts or opinions, but that he (she) has no extra energy to take care of things that should not be taken care of by himself. It is precisely because Jack Ma focuses on his own business and has no extra energy to complain, so Ma Yun has become a successful person. Everyone knows that apart from Alibaba, Huawei is also one of China’s most successful companies and one of the few private companies with a scale of 100 billion yuan. Its boss, Ren Zheng Fei, is also one of the successful figures that people admire very much. Ren Zheng Fei is very mysterious, and Huawei is even more mysterious. Dare to ask: If they have news here today, focus there tomorrow, and still have time to focus on their own careers, can they still succeed in their careers?

“Never complain” is a mentality and a basic prerequisite for success. Concentrating on doing your own thing well and doing your own thing successfully is the most important thing right now. Starting a business or starting a business cannot distract yourself, and people who work for others in the workplace are no exception. If you are full of complaints all day, you will never be able to do your job well, and you will be doomed to fail to go out of the right way. Although this is rough, but reason is not rough.

Teacher Ho Fei Peng believes that publishers must use knowledge to change the world. He does not think that “good books” rated by so-called intellectuals or cultural people can represent the reader’s position.

Mr. Ho Fei Peng, a senior publisher in Taiwan, once said that problems are common in all companies and all workplaces. He said: A young man told me that his company’s products had many problems, and competitors’ products were cheap and easy to use. He also tried to reflect to the company many times, but the company was unwilling to change, which bothered him and also didn’t know what to do for the next. Teacher Ho Fei Peng asked him whether the company’s operating conditions are terrible? He said that the company’s operations are good because the company sells and produces high-quality, high-priced products. The competitors are new companies and small companies, they use low prices and services to win. Although some small customers will be lost, big customers are still with us. . Therefore, the company is unwilling to adjust the product line.

Teacher Ho Fei Peng continued to ask, “why don’t you go find big customers and sell the company’s high-end, high-priced products”? The young man replied that he is a newcomer and his major clients are in the hands of old colleagues. He can only start with small clients, and he feels painful. Teacher Ho Fei Peng asked again: “What do you think or any plan to solve when you faced at this situation?” The young man replied: “The product is like this, what can I say?” The whole “story” is already very clear. The young people in the conversation are not only full of multi-faceted thinking about the company, but also full of resentment towards the company. Imagine the mental state of a young man, can he do well in the company? The answer is no. No company or unit will let an employee get ahead for no reason. Besides, the young man’s company is operating well, which shows that the young man lacks mainstream awareness of the company’s negative thinking. If the young man thinks about it in another way, his confusion may not be as great, and his situation may not be as embarrassing as he thinks.

This is not to say that the company he works for is okay, nor that he cannot have ideas as an employee, but if he has ideas, he should choose the right opportunity and speak in the right tone, provided that his work must be completed first instead of “It’s troublesome, I don’t know what to do”. The main reasons for this are:

  1. Any enterprise or unit, no matter how big or small, is a “game of chess”, one move affects the overall situation, and you must not disrupt the combination just because of your different opinions;
  2. Business management is an important subject that can never be finished. It is normal if there is a problem, and abnormal if there is no problem.

From this perspective, business managers will make fine-tuning without affecting the company’s operating conditions, because “operating conditions” determine everyone’s jobs and cannot be changed at will.

So, how do employees express their opinions at the right opportunity and in the right tone? “Appropriate opportunity” means that the company or unit spends a certain amount of time and sets up a certain place or occasion to widely disseminate opinions. Other opportunities and other locations are not considered “appropriate”; what is “appropriate tone”? It refers to the tone used by the subordinates for admonition of the superior, and other tones are not included in the category of “appropriate tone”. Why choose “the right opportunity and the right tone” to admonish? The purpose is to improve the effect of admonitions and let the leaders admire them. If this is not the case, admonishment will be meaningless, and it will make the leader feel resentful towards you. It can be said that from “never complaining” to “do things in an orderly manner”, this is not only the basic principle of life, but also the basic principle of behavior. If you lose these two basic principles, people will do things that are annoying, and things will be annoying. If you want to have prestige among your friends and colleagues, you must let most people say things well, but it may be difficult. .

“Don’t Just”

Don’t just learn, experience.
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.”

By Roy T. Bennett