One day a wise teacher asked his students: “Why do people shout when they are angry?”
All the students thought about it for a long time, and one of them said: “Because we have lost our “calmness”, so we will shout.”
The teacher asked again: “But why do you still shout when someone is next to you? Can’t you say it in a low voice? Why do you always shout?”
Almost all the students talked a lot, but there was no answer that satisfied the teacher.
Finally, the teacher explained: “When two people are angry at the same time, the distance between their hearts is very far. To cross the distance of the heart, so that the other party can hear, so he will use the way of shouting. But while shouting, people will become more virtuous; the angrier people are, the farther the distance will become. As the distance gets farther, you have no choice but to shout louder…”
The teacher went on to say: “And when two people are in love, what will it be like? The situation is just the opposite. Not only do you don’t need to shout, but you speak very softly. Why? Because their hearts are very close and there is almost no distance between them, the two people in love usually talk in whispers. Therefore, the love in the heart has become deeper. As time passes, no words are needed at all. Couples can communicate with each other only with their eyes. By this time, the so-called distance between heart and heart has long been gone…”
Finally, the teacher made a conclusion: “When two people quarrel, don’t let the distance between the hearts become far; not to mention something that makes the distance of the heart farther. After calming down, the distance between each other’s hearts is already a little closer, and it won’t be too late to speak well by then!”
When two people are angry, the distance between their hearts is very far. When they are angry with each other, please keep silent and don’t make any decisions when they are angry.
Epiphany: The communication between people is not the communication between the body and the body, but the communication between the mind and the soul. Sometimes, when you are close at hand and your heart is far away, you must increase the volume to ensure that the distant mind can receive the message. No matter who you are communicating with, bring each other’s hearts closer and communicate with each other attentively.