In daily life, everyone hopes to meet the noble person and hope that the noble person can help. However, some people often take it for granted when they receive assistance from others, and even complain about the other party: “It is not enough for you to help a little bit, you should continue to help!” What’s more, the noble person has already appeared in front of you. But still ignorant or careless to identify the person of importance or great ability, thinking that the other party is nosy.
If you meet someone with this kind of mentality, it’s like an idiom that i have read: “A dog biting Lu Dong Bin and to ill reward a person’s kindness.” Lu Dong Bin took some food to feed the dog because of his kindness. As a result, the dog was not grateful, but bit him back. There are many such situations in society. You help the other person. Not only does he not know how to be grateful, but he even blames you for troubles. No matter how kind you treat him, he is dissatisfied, and may even return favour and revenge. Encountering such a thing, it is difficult for people to balance, what should we do at this time?
Lü Dongbin (796 CE-1016 CE) is a legendary Chinese scholar and poet said to have lived during the Tang Dynasty. Whether he actually lived the two hundred and twenty years cannot be determined. Elevated to the status of an immortal in the Chinese cultural sphere by Daoists, he is one of the most widely known of the group of deities known as the Eight Immortals. Lü is also a historical figure and mentioned in the official history book History of Song. He is widely considered to be one of the earliest masters of neidan, or internal alchemy. He is also depicted in art dressed as a scholar carrying a sword to dispel evil spirits.
Therefore, a scholar once told me: “Good people are difficult to do, and good doors are difficult to open.” Therefore, to be a small good person, you can’t be a big good person; To do small good things, you can’t do big good things； If you want to open the door of small goodness, you can’t open the door of great goodness.”
I ask him why? He said: “When a person is hungry, you give him a catty of rice and let him take it home to cook, he will be very grateful, because without this bowl of rice, he may not be able to survive. But if you take it People who have no food to eat are raised at home and give him food every day. When you ask him to help with things, he may become disgusted: ‘What’s so great, I’m just eating a few bites of your meal, what do you think of me?’ Gradually, such psychological contradictions and conflicts will appear.”
This layman’s statement is very interesting, and the reason seems to be correct, but in fact it is not completely correct.
For example, as long as someone knows that Fagushan or so-called Dharma Drum Mountain is an international Buddhist spiritual is doing relief work, they will come to the door one after another, hoping that we will give them money and materials. If they feel that we are not giving enough, they will shout loudly: “Buddha should be very merciful, why are you so so? No mercy?” So some people think that if we never do charity work, no one knows, and no one will call us or beg us.
Dharma Drum Mountain is an international Buddhist spiritual, cultural, and educational foundation founded by late Chan master Sheng-yen. The center focuses on educating the public in Buddhism with the goal of improving the world and establishing a “Pure Land on Earth” through Buddhist education.
But there must be mutual assistance and cooperation between people. When you have the resources and ability, you should try to help others. As for whether others regard you as a noble person, it doesn’t matter. Although there may be some sequelae, if you want to do good deeds, open good doors, and be others’ nobles, you shouldn’t care about it, and you shouldn’t hope to get thanks from others after doing good deeds. Doing good things is simply because you are “willing” to do it. When the other person gets help, you feel very happy. This is the reward you get from helping others. As for how others will criticize and treat yourself in the future, you don’t need to care too much.
Therefore, if you want to be someone else’s real noble person, you should try your best to do what you can do. Other people’s criticism, slander, and excessive demands do not need to be taken into consideration. Because no matter how others scolded, it is his business and has nothing to do with him; if you should not be scolded and get scolded, it is the wrongdoing of others, you don’t need to be angry or discouraged. As long as you can dedicate yourself, you should feel happy.