Late Wedding – Chapter 15 – Stop the military vehicle

Chapter 15 – Stop the military vehicle

Man Man and the others got off the train in Shi Jia Zhuang. Because Du Yu ordered a batch of decoration materials and goods in Shi Jia Zhuang before and bought a small truck to take it to Beijing by himself. These things in Shi Jia Zhuang are cheaper than in Beijing, including some daily necessities. They were in the wholesale market in Shi Jia Zhuang along the road. Man Man and Chu Xia bought some more things and threw them on the small truck by the way.

In this way, after staying in Shi Jia Zhuang for one night, the three of them recharged and set off for Beijing early the next day, which is expected to take four or five hours by car.

Leave early, find a local driver who is familiar with the road, driver Wang, and show them the way when they return to Beijing together. They are countless, not counted as encountering a major traffic jam.

“It is said that the surface of several places is dry and cracked, and the road section is being repaired.” Driver Wang walked to the front and asked people, then came back and said, “It was blocked since the middle of the night last night. It was supposed to be accessible this morning, but it has not been finished repaired yet. No one on the road today knew it, so it was blocked.”

Traffic jams are the most feared, because they can’t walk in front of the village or shop at the back. They see that they have walked two-thirds of the journey.

Driver Wang brought a few plastics lunch boxes back from wherever he went. The three people simply ate lunch in the car. In the afternoon, the small truck followed the car in front, rubbing the road like a turtle. By five or six o’clock, they couldn’t even buy lunch boxes.

Chu Xia searched the bag for Master Bao Kang’s blueberry sandwich biscuits and distributed them to Man Man.

Man Man curled up on her seat like a limp worm. She shook her head: “I have no appetite and don’t want to eat.”

She touched Man Man’s forehead a bit hot, and the Chu Xia probe pointed to Du Yu in the front seat and said: “I felt something wrong with the lunch box at noon. Man Man’s stomach is weaker than mine, I’m afraid she can’t stand it anymore.”

The two of them have been together with Man Man for so long, and they both know that Man Man’s stomach disease is out of hand. Chu Xia remembers very well that every time Man Man went to the hospital with a stomach problem in college, she couldn’t be discharged without tossing for a few days. At this thought, both were scared out of a cold sweat.

Du Yu hurriedly got out of the car and ran to discuss with Driver Wang. I wanted to find a traffic policeman to explain the situation and clear the way for them. After a long walk, they couldn’t find a policeman.

Driver Wang suggested: Call the emergency call.

Man Man insisted on sitting up: “No need. I’ll be fine later.”

Seeing that the patient seemed to be able to hold on, Driver Wang said to the three of them: “To be honest, if she can’t go to the hospital, don’t go first. Hospitals in Beijing burn the most money. One of my relatives stayed in the hospital for ten days and spent almost eighty thousand without getting better. End up, he was carried home but cured himself.”

The three of them heard him say this, especially Man Man, she was reluctant to go to the hospital anymore.

But the traffic jam is still blocked, if you can find a pharmacy to buy two stool medicines, it can help the patient alleviate the condition. According to this idea, when Chu Xia saw a green off-road bus like a military vehicle grazing the emergency lane next to the minivan, she made a decisive decision and took Man Man out of the car.

It is said that it is an emergency lane. In the case of heavy traffic jams, some vehicles regardless of traffic rules are blocked in the emergency lane. However, military vehicles performing official duties have the priority to drive. If the alarm is raised, other vehicles must give way to it. In this way, military vehicles must be much faster than other vehicles.

At that moment when a few vehicles were blocking in front and the military vehicle stopped, Chu Xia rushed to catch up with Man Man, and slapped the door of the military vehicle.

When the car door opened, she saw the driver wearing a military uniform. She thought that she was really a comrade of the People’s Army, and she should speak very well, and said, “Sir, my friend is sick and can’t move in the traffic jam now. Can you help my friend get into the city first?”

The driver may be just a soldier, afraid to catch the idea, looking back expectantly: “Lord Lu, someone wants to get in our car.”

“Who?” With a strong male voice, a tall soldier appeared at the door of the car. The small orange light in the car pecked out his two thick and sharp eyebrows, his face was beautifully lined but full of toughness, and his ink-stained eyes were like knives, poking straight into the human spine.

Like Chu Xia, people who are not afraid of the sky and fearlessly shiver when they first touch his eyes.

Man Man felt that this person was not easy to provoke, and whispered: “Chu Xia, let’s go.”

Go? Why go? Didn’t the People’s Liberation Army save the people in dire straits? Chu Xia stood still and had to let Man Man get on this military vehicle.

“Patient?” Lord Lu squinted indifferently to Man Man’s small face hidden in the dark. He was not so pale when he saw, “We are not an ambulance.”

When the hard-lined figure turns, the car door closes.

Chu Xia squeezed the door of the car and shouted angrily: “Why are you unreasonable? Are you the People’s Liberation Army?”

Forced to turn around, he raised his thick eyebrows: “I said, it’s a military vehicle, not an ambulance. I can call for an ambulance for you.”

“We just don’t want to call an ambulance now. This car is jammed like this, how long will it take for the ambulance to come here.” Chu Xia bit him and held on.

“Lord Lu–“ The soldiers who drove felt that the noise would go on endlessly, and they couldn’t really push the woman out of the car, so it’s better to forget.

“Can the military truck be towered by others?” He said lightly and harshly, and the soldier immediately shut his mouth. Turning his head, the corners of his indifferent lips hooked up, and he wiped out a sneer: “You probably don’t think that if you call for an ambulance, you have to spend money, and you don’t have to spend money on a military vehicle.”

“What are you talking about?!” Chu Xia was irritated, and she stared at him tit-for-tatly, “I think you’re the only money enthusiast! How much do you charge to get my friend in the car?”

A knife-point wink swept over their two simple cotton shirts and jeans, and said, “Five hundred.”

Man Man’s small face turned from white to black. Chu Xia’s fists were shaking.

The man put a hand on the car seat and looked down at them with a look that seemed to have known it.

Riding a tiger is hard to get off (it’s mean get into a position from which there is no retiring).

It’s really going to leave him right now, she might be looked down upon by people like him for the rest of her life!

Clicked to open the wallet and found five red papers worth 100 yuan.

“Chu Xia–“ Man Man resisted the colic in her stomach, hurriedly hopped into the car in stride, but was too late to stop it.

Five renminbi “snapped” were slammed on the man’s head, and the man was motionless. Under their angry gaze, they didn’t pick up one renminbi. They just turned their faces slightly and said to the soldier who was driving: “Let her get into the car.”

Man Man was anxious to put her hand into her trouser pocket, and she was going to return the money to Chu Xia. Chu Xia held down her hand and told: “You keep the money for yourself. It costs money to buy medicine in the city. I don’t know how expensive this pharmacy in the city is. Call me if you have any questions.”

“Chu Xia.” Man Man hesitated to speak.

She patted her shoulder, Chu Xia got out of the car and watched the car door close.

Passing through the brown car window, Man Man saw the shadow of Chu Xia submerged in the traffic. She stood unable to move for a while, and she was cold all over. She only saw the attitude called Lu Jun just now, and she didn’t necessarily know how nice the people in this car would be. Looking over the corner of her eyes, she happened to meet those cold ink pupils, and her teeth bit her lower lip.

The man really didn’t even want to care about her and pointed to the other soldier and said: “Gao Da Shuai, find a seat for her.”

The new soldier seemed to be more polite to her, with a smile: “Come here.”

Moving forward, she found that the military vehicle was basically full. Soldiers are either wearing long-sleeved light green army shirts or wearing a military jacket outside. Leaning heads against each other and dozing off, each of them looked tired.

Walking to the last row of seats at the end of the car, she saw a person lying flat on the seat of four or five people. The handsome kicked on the seat and shouted, “Lord Yao, get up!”

After shouting twice, the soldier did not move, as if he was asleep.

Gao Da Shuai had to leaned down, pressed his ears, and shouted: “Yao Zi Ye, get up quickly for me, there is a beautiful woman!”

Perhaps the word “beauty” had the effect. The dead fish-like uncle of the soldier suddenly struck a carp, sat up, raised his head, and met Man Man’s small face with glasses, and narrowed his narrow eyes: “This is a beauty?”

CHAPTER 16 – Military men

Late Wedding – Chapter 14 – Go See Him

Chapter 14 – Go See Him

A week after Jiang Yan left, Du Yu and Chu Xia decided to drift north in advance due to some incidents. The time is set in four days.

Chu Xia discussed with Man Man. Considering that Jiang Yan was in Beijing, Man Man had already wanted to drift north. Anyway, Man Man would follow them to Beijing this time and only stay for a few months. Men and women who have just fallen in love, if they are in a long-distance relationship, it is easy to get cold.

Time is running out. Man Man returned home that night and saw that her mother and Yuan Yuan were not there. She immediately told Wen Shi Xuan about this.

Wen Shixuan heard her say that she was leaving in four days, and he couldn’t bear to say, “Can you? The weather in the north is no better than in the south.”

As a father, he is afraid that his daughter will suffer more than at home when he goes out, and that Man Man is thinner, so he is afraid that her body will not be able to stand it. Wouldn’t it be better if she is fully prepared before leaving?

“The weather is warm now, and Chu Xia and Du Yu are just short of staff, I just can help.” Man Man really wanted to help her friends start the business and chose to go with them. Usually, Chu Xia helps her not only a little bit.

Seeing his daughter’s decision had been made, Wen Shi Xuan said: “Okay. After you go to Beijing, I will talk to your mother again.”

The two father and daughter agreed to act first and report later. After all, Xu Yu’e didn’t give up on Jin Ruo Wen’s proposal, and talked about it at the dinner table every day. Wen Shi Xuan was also afraid if Man Man stays at home, she will be forced to marry by Xu Yu’e sooner or later. This dad doesn’t like his own daughter marrying a rich boss to support her own family.

Man Man was worried about revealing, and while Yuanyuan was not at home, she only secretly packed some of the most used things with her. As for the savings, take them all with her. She worked for a few years and accumulated less than 10,000 yuan because of the large expenses at home. Fortunately, Du Yu and early summer said that she would pay for her food and accommodation and transportation. When she went there, she only needed to buy some daily necessities, and the cost should not be large.

Even so, Wen Shi Xuan secretly stuffed her a sum of money the night she was about to leave. A thick bundle of renminbi frightened Man Man.

“Dad?” Man Man conservatively estimated that there were at least five thousand in it. This amount shocked her heart. She didn’t know the financial situation of the family, and she was going to send it back to Wen Shi Xuan soon.

“Dad kept it from your mother and saved it for you and Yuanyuan. One for you, one for Yuanyuan.” Wen Shi Xuan didn’t allow her to plug it back in, and Qian told Wan, “If you go there and you lack money to spend, call dad. Dad will send it to you when he tightens his pants.”

“Dad–” Man Man said in her voice, meditating in her heart that she would earn a lot of money in Beijing to give back to her father anyway.

Wen Shi Xuan sniffed. At this time, he, the father, must be stronger than his daughter: “Although you are sisters with Chu Xia, you are not family members after all. Remember, if something happens, be sure to call home. No matter how bad the family is, if you have difficulties, the family will definitely not care about you.”

“I remember.” Man Man nodded repeatedly.

Wen Shi Xuan searched for a bowel movement and didn’t explain it yet, and said, “Before you leave tomorrow, go and say hello to your grandma.”

Wen Shi Xuan is a filial son. Although he did not give his mother a wealth of wealth and enjoyment, he did not forget to educate his children to be filial to the elderly.

With a mouthful, Man Man went to her grandma’s house first after sending her luggage to Chu Xia the next morning.

Granny Wen lives alone in the undeveloped Niu Tian Village on the outskirts of the city. This is the former residence of the Wen family. Every Spring Festival, Man Man would go back to her former residence with her grandmother to have a reunion dinner with the Wen family. She heard her father talk about her childhood. What Wen Shi Xuan often said to her was that she was different from Yuan Yuan when she was young. She was born at her grandma’s house. Grandma loved her very much and tied a piece of spiritual treasure to her neck to keep her safe throughout her life.

This piece of jade Man Man has been worn from birth to now, and it is tied with a red string without leaving her body. The father didn’t talk about it in front of others, mainly because he was worried that his little daughter Yuan Yuan would have opinions when she saw it.

Pushing open the batten gate, there is an old locust tree in the old yard. The Wen family reunion dinner during the Spring Festival. If the weather is good, the table will be placed under the locust tree. This spring is warming up, and the branches of the locust tree have more green buds, which looks particularly pleasing.

Grandma Wen sat on the small bench under the locust tree alone, picking wild vegetables in her hand.

Speaking of the Wen family’s temperament, loneliness, and weirdness. She doesn’t like to move to the city to enjoy the good fortune with her children and grandchildren. She just like to guard this old house. Now the grandma’s health is okay, it’s no problem to eat and live alone, and Wen Shi Xuan and her sons and daughters don’t force their mother to live with other people.

If it wasn’t for her father and that piece of jade, Man Man felt that she, like her sister, could not like such a lonely grandmother.

“Grandma.” Man Man shouted affectionately, and she put a bag of apples in her hand on the wooden table.

Grandma Wen looked up slowly, looked at her slowly, and lowered her head again, without saying a word.  

This look of the old man who doesn’t agree with anyone is a memory that Man Man has had since he was a child. The father said it was because grandma was dazzled by the back of her ears. Touching the piece of jade in the placket in the palm of her hand, Man Man believed that his father said that grandma had always loved her very much.

She sat with the old man for a long time, and Grandma Wen never answered. With such a polite and docile temperament to everyone, she also couldn’t hold on until the end, so she had to get up and say awkwardly: “Grandma, I’m going back.”

Grandma Wen was still silent.

Man Man took her small bag and walked out of the Wen family’s former residence. When she went out to pull the door, she suddenly heard a heavy snort from grandma: Damn girl!

This was probably the first thing she had heard from her grandma in her life. She couldn’t figure out the meaning of her grandma’s words, Man Man frowned. However, she remembers that both her mother and second aunt had privately complained from the elderly, saying that Grandma Wen was a typical patriarchal mother-in-law, so the two daughters-in-law who could not give birth to a son were rejected by Grandma Wen.

Man Man knows that patriarchy is still a deep-rooted idea of the older generation in this place. She can only hope that her parents-in-law will not be like Grandma Wen in the future.

So, she thought of Jiang Yan. Probably because thinking of him, she felt that leaving home to go far away, without the anxiety and loneliness of wandering in a foreign land, her heart jumped like a spark of sparks, and she seemed to be able to ignite when she saw him.

She and Chu Xia Du Yu got on the train in the afternoon and sent him a text message. She didn’t know if he could receive it in the army. Since his last text message more than a week ago said he had returned to the team, no news came back.

“When we arrived in Beijing, we asked someone to find out about his army camp and went to the army camp to see him.” Chu Xia gave her an idea.

Man Man smiled: “What’s the hurry? His ring is with me.”

Chu Xia rolled her eyes to her: I don’t believe you are not in a hurry.

Leaning head on the car window, listening to the rumbling train sound, this time, the train is about to bring her to his side, Man Man’s smile fills the corner of her eyes.

CHAPTER 15 – Stop the military vehicle

Your success is defeated by these people!

Don’t spend time with people who make you angry because that person won’t bring you happiness.

Don’t spend time with people who are more mindful because your kindness can’t play with him.

Don’t spend time with people who don’t know how to cherish you, because that person is worthless.

Don’t spend time with people who perfuse you because you can’t get the sincerity from them.

Don’t spend time with people who tell lies because you are always living in his deception.

If you want to live happily, please stay away from such people. People who don’t understand gratitude are more terrible than wolves, and they do and cherish it!

Please stay away from these people:-

Unfilial Type

Don’t respect your parents, even insult, beat and scold your parents. This is the first kind of people who are inferior to beasts!

Beast Type

When such a person opens his mouth to borrow money from a friend, he can’t wait to kneel down, pat his chest, express gratitude and promise to repay the money on time. When it came time to pay the money, he avoided seeing him, shirking for various reasons, even shutting down and avoiding it, refusing to pay back the money.

Unethical Type

He is happy when you help him, he turns back when you don’t help him, and when he involves a little benefit, he will immediately be a black-faced person.

Disaster Type

He doesn’t know how to respect others, he is self-centred. In the past few years, he has been speculative, got some money, and met a few government officials. He feels that everyone is inferior to himself. He is accustomed to people who base their happiness on the suffering of others, and he is annoyed by his own interests that harm everyone’s interests. He wants you get trouble every day! He likes to show off his achievements in front of the weak.

Ungrateful Type

You did 9 things well for him in 10 things, and if one thing was not as good as his intention, he turned his face. When getting along with people, he never remembers what others treat him well, only the things that are not good for him. He has never been grateful for what his friends have helped him or paid for.

If you hand over the above kinds of people, your life will basically be ruined in half.

Be sure to make four friends as below: –

  1. Appreciate your friends: Encourage you and help you when you are down and disappointments.
  2. Friends with positive energy: Accompany you when you are sad and uncomfortable.
  3. Friends who lead you: Willing to lead you selflessly through the mud and fog.
  4. Friends who can criticize you: Always remind you, supervise you, and don’t want your life to stumble.

Life can’t ignore every step

“Even a snail will eventually reach its destination.”
― Gail Tsukiyama ―

God gave a young man a task to take a snail for a walk.

The young man can’t go too fast, the snail has tried his best to crawl, always moving a little bit every time. He urged the snail, frightened it, and blamed it.

Snail looked at him with a sorry look and said, “I have tried my best. I have to go step by step.”

The young man pulls the snail, pulls it, he even wants to kick the snail. The snail was injured, it was sweating, panting, and crawling forward step by step.

“It’s strange, why did God ask me to take a snail for a walk?” He thought, “God! Why?”

The sky is quiet. “Oh! Maybe God went to catch the snail? Well, let go! Anyway, God doesn’t care, what am I going to do? The snail can go wherever he wants.”

The young man allowed the snail to crawl forward, and he sulked behind. Huh? He smelled the scent of flowers, and it turned out that there was a garden by the side of the road. Slowly, he heard the birds sound, he heard the birds are singing, and he saw the sky full of beautiful stars. Huh? Why didn’t he have this experience before? Could it be that he made a mistake? The young man suddenly understood why God told him to take a snail for a walk.

The foreign language of the book: God let the snail take the young man for a walk means that people should take every step of the day.

“People walk step by step, and you can’t ignore every step.”

By Yao Ming

The secret of success—-Two ants

“If an ant carries an object a hundred times its weight, you can carry burdens many times your size.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

The two ants were very unfortunate and strayed into the glass.

They flustered around the bottom of the glass, trying to find a gap to climb out. Soon, they found out that this was impossible.

So, they began to climb up along the wall of the cup. It seems that this is the only path to freedom.

However, the surface of the glass was so smooth that they fell heavily as soon as they climbed two steps.

They rubbed their aching bodies, got up, and climbed up again. Soon, they fell heavily to the bottom of the cup again.

Three times, four times, five times … once, seeing that they were about to climb to the mouth of the cup, unfortunately, the last step failed, and this time it hurt more than any time.  

It took them a long time to catch their breath. An ant rubbed his ass and said: “We can’t take any more risks. Otherwise, it will fall to pieces.” The other ant said, “Just now, are we not only one step away from victory?” Then he started climbing again.

Falling again and again, climbing again and again, he touched the edge of the cup mouth in the end, and with the last bit of strength, he turned over the transparent wall.

Across the glass, the ant in the cup asked both enviously and enviously: “Tell me, what is the secret of your success?”

The ant outside the cup replied: “It may be the most difficult when approaching success, and whoever does not lose confidence in the most difficult time may win.”

The ants in the cup were inspired and encouraged, no longer afraid of being hurt by falling, and they began to climb again. They eventually climbed out of the glass and rendezvoused with another ant.

And the important factor why the little ant cannot give up is that it has the belief that it will win. If it adheres to the belief that it will win in setbacks, it will not lose the power to persist.

Note for girls: 10 kinds of men can’t marry

I often encounter friends asking, what kind of man is worth relying on for a woman, and what kind of man can I choose to make the chances of happiness greater? In fact, this issue is a very grand subject. Different people have different preferences and choices, and the bottom line of acceptance is also different. It is difficult to generalize.

And happiness is a systematic project. It is a variable thing that two people restrain and deduce each other in the process of facing each other day and night. It is by no means like buying something. You can have it for a lifetime if you pay one price at a time. This is also a lot of people. Envy someone else’s partner, but in fact, there may not be a reason for such a result if you really match you.

The key to happiness lies in one’s own hands. A person who knows how to manage and select will do the most suitable things to the most suitable person, so that the situation will have a healthy development, and bad taste and naive way will also cause a person to be very It is difficult to examine and choose the right person in essence, and finally deal with the problem rather confusingly. So this is a two-way question: try to choose someone you can appreciate and accept, and then work hard to manage it.

But in general, when it comes to choosing a relationship, we still need to avoid the other’s obvious defects in personality and quality. Some problems cannot be remedied through our efforts. Some common choices still have a clearer standard. For ordinary people, it is better not to try out some minefields. Let’s talk about men like this.

In order to make it easier for everyone to understand and operate, I have also included suitable and unsuitable people among the various types. Because the world is mysterious and unpredictable, there are no absolutes, so I was named. Men, don’t be discouraged, and don’t blame me for ruining your good deeds. Wild lilies also have spring, and your future direction is still very bright.

Minefields No. 1: Misbehavior

If he is keen to tell you how to use improper means to punish others in the workplace, or relish communicating with you how to go unorthodox, how to make Yin deceive and exclude dissidents, or if you find that he has a strange and cunning, unscrupulous side, good at dealing with fraud, and dismissive of rules such as conscience and morality, then you must be vigilant.

Character is the most foundation of a person. The problem of character is a matter of principle. All his life, he will live with the world and feelings given to him by this kind of thing, and he will never be eluted. Don’t think that he is a manifestation of a man’s ability. A person’s disregard for the rules and lack of moral warmth is a personality defect. He will also have his own characteristics in dealing with emotional issues. Even if he is docile and considerate to you now, in the end, if you put him in a choice and dilemma, he will use his most primitive and familiar means to deal with you, and love will not always have the original restraint and influence.

Don’t use examples such as some men who have the means to be all-powerful and will also be good to their wives to convince themselves that it is always a case of small chances, and some successful men will compromise certain bad habits of society. It may not be that they yearn for cunning in nature and are willing to twist themselves like this. They still have their own measure and kindness in their hearts, so they will return to nature in another place. It is not the same as those men who lack poor character in their nature, and the latter is also difficult to achieve big things.

Not suitable for the crowd: people who have relatively high requirements for human character and quality, have certain principles, hope that the relationship between people and people is more normal and healthier, do not like to secretly calculate and do not appreciate personal fraud.

Suitable for the crowd: familiar with thick black studies, and do not mind learning from another master; appreciate men with means, only care about the results and not about the process; do not feel that there is anything wrong with this way of life, advocating the law of the jungle.

Minefield No. 2: Narrow-minded

His heart and mind are narrow than anyone else’s, and whoever treats him badly or inadvertently offends him is brooding and must find a chance to return it. Where did you offend his old man, he can’t forget it for the first time, always remind you of this. When he quarrelled, he was more like a woman than you. He had to count all your questions, always remember how you were sorry for him, and asked you to pay the price.

If something is unsatisfactory, he will sigh and feel unhappy. He has never forgotten and surpassed the contradictions and the faults of others. He will never forget and compete with himself. He is intolerant and cannot accept some of your dissatisfaction. He will always remind you where there is a problem with you and how he is dissatisfied. He also cares too much about his relatives and colleagues or classmates, and he can’t let go of trivial matters, all of which become the source of depression and harm to others. For such a man, you should start to be vigilant.

A man who lacks the mind will live a very unhappy life. Such a man is even more unable to adapt to society than such a woman. He can neither accomplish great things nor deal with family conflicts and is destined to be a failure.

People who like the need to live are very gloomy. For them, the world is a relationship between the victim and the victim. Any slight damage can be attributed to a complex causal relationship by them. They have a strong vengeance. It is not only a narrow-minded problem, but also a gloomy mentality of not being able to persuade oneself and having to pay the price to others to get satisfaction. For such a person, it’s worth being vigilant that you can’t do not sin against them for the rest of your life. Everyone lives in a mutual run-in, so if you offend him, he can’t use normal methods to resolve it, he can only Be able to add back to you your feelings.

Not suitable for the crowd: people who are easy-going and don’t like to care about themselves and can’t stand the other person’s memory being too good; require men to have a mind, not a mother-in-law; people who are cheerful, careless, and without scheming are easy to be caught by the other person in this issue.

Suitable for the crowd: the style of work is strong, and it can suppress the revenge of men; be submissive, and do not like to violate the new era model of men’s three virtues and four virtues.

Minefield No. 3: Selfishness and Self-Interest

He thinks about himself first in everything, always judges things according to his own standards and imagination, doesn’t listen to the opinions of others, and only cares about his own wishes. He will also be nice to you, but if you don’t act according to his requirements, he will turn his face. He pays more attention to his own interests, often asking you to do something under the banner of being nice to you, and without exception he is the beneficiary. In the two people get along, he will choose the direction that is beneficial to him to determine your direction. He is more concerned about the material, benefits, and reputation you can bring to him, and he doesn’t care much about how you really feel. If you meet such a man, you should be vigilant.

Selfishness is a natural reaction, but extreme selfishness is difficult to provide a woman with the warmth and love she really craves. A person who always thinks about himself is destined that his world and space are only so small, and marriage is mixed with too much mutual understanding and dedication, and without commitment, there can be no happiness at all.

Not suitable for the crowd: people who think that lovers should help each other, pay each other, and have high expectations for their feelings; be shrewd in doing things, and cannot tolerate the other party taking advantage of themselves; people who are strong in character, and have the courage to resist unjust relationships.

Suitable for the crowd: those who love the supreme, believe that love is a complete payment, and do not mind the return; those who are broad-minded and really do not like to care.

Minefield No. 4: Hypocrisy

What he says and what he does are never the same thing. He is very good at hiding what is in his heart, and what he can express is what you like to hear and are willing to listen, but he may not be able to do what you really need. You will find that he will perform well in front of others, but on other unimportant occasions he will be different.

He has no truth in his mouth, big things lie, small things lie, completely unrelated things he is also used to making up an answer he likes to tell you. His psychological quality is super good, even if you catch it and expose it, he laughs like Wei Xiao Bao and begins to organize new lies all over the mountains and fields. He is not bad, but also sincere and kind. It is this habit that drives people crazy. He said he wanted to correct it, but it is difficult to do it.

He will always avoid the truth about anything to you, and when you ask, he will start play Tai chi, and three pushes and two pushes will eventually be over. He never talks about his feelings and future, he closes himself tightly, and you will never know his heart. When you discuss problems with him, he avoids talking about him left and right, and you will not understand any of his clear views and ideas. At this time, you may think that he is very mysterious, very charming, and worth digging like a treasure? No, you should be vigilant.

People who love to lie are a kind of psychological defect. They crave the approval of others and hope to be affirmed by others. Because they have lived in an unsafe environment or learned to observe words and watch people cook dishes to cover up their mistakes, they have become a habit of life.

People often say that it is better to be a real villain than a hypocrite. When a person knows how to hide something disgraceful in his heart, it will be more dangerous. When such a man already uses means to show what he can be accepted by the world, but hides a more complex heart, it will never be difficult for you to know what such a man will do, it is a feeling of staying on top of the dynamite vault.

The first principle of love is sincerity, even if there is no deep love, but with a sincere heart, it is enough for us to be warm. A person is not even willing to open his heart to others at least and reveal his intentions. The depth of his love is doubtful. Moreover, people with flashing words generally have very heavy intentions and cities. Too gloomy schemes make it difficult for you to enter his heart. You may always be excluded from his world, which is unbearable for some people who like to see each other honestly with their loved ones.

Not suitable for the crowd: naive personality, not good at perceiving people’s hearts; people who hate hypocrisy and want their lovers to be sincere; people who hate being blinded by lies.

Suitable for the crowd: People who are sloppy and don’t like to get to the bottom of things; people who like men’s cities, don’t want to worry about figuring out each other, and like to be arranged and manipulated.

Minefield No. 5: Violent Character

He likes to use violence to solve problems, and if you don’t succumb, he doesn’t mind using brute force to suppress. He always has his own reason for hitting you. Every time you provoke an incident, you force him to do it. You must be very obedient and obedient to him to show a gentle side, but if you disobey a little, his anger will be instantly ignited. In short, it is good to be nice to you, and it is really dared to do it when it is bad. You need to be vigilant anytime.

Violent personality is also a personality defect. In fact, they are lonely and incompetent from their hearts. Because they are afraid that others will see it, they use power to protect themselves twice. They don’t know how to deal with the problem correctly, so they will take the most direct and effective way to deal with it. Violence is an addictive thing. Except for occasional conflicts, the violence that has become a habit can only get stronger and stronger. Obedience and submission will never solve the fundamental problem.

Not suitable for the crowd: strong self-esteem; hate violence, strong personality; a smart woman who runs after a dozen and will never look back.

Suitable for the crowd: the personality is weak enough to be able to get rid of the control of others; believe that violence is also love; masochistic patients.

Minefield No. 6: Contempt for Women

He does not think that a woman is a creature of his own kind, and he will be nice to a woman, but this kind of kindness is like a pet, without real understanding and respect from the heart. He doesn’t like to care about women, but the starting point is complete contempt and unwillingness to reason with women. He quarrelled with women thinly, and always regarded women as something like tools and pastimes. Such a man is also worthy of vigilance.

This is not the category of machismo. Machismo just sees women as weak and believes that men should bear more, but those who despise women in their hearts will not be able to respect and be equal at all. His changes to women have been misguided from the beginning, no matter how good they are now, but they always lack the necessary depth and long-term understanding.

Not suitable for the crowd: feminists; new women; sensitive people.

Suitable for the crowd: like-minded people who are willing to rely on men; like-minded people who naturally feel that women are different than men.

Minefield No. 7: Strong desire to control

He pursues the effect that everything is under control, and he must participate in all your action arrangements and life plans and do it exactly according to his heart. He has his own life principles and life order, of course, you must also obey. Your friends, work, career, etc., he will interfere in every detail. He is afraid that you are out of his control, and once you have such signs, he will be very upset or furious until you finally succumb.

He never said what he heard, only the worst. He specifically starts on your most taboo wound, ensuring that it is extremely lethal, and a word will not slow you down for half your life. He is harsh, always seeing others as the worst, always in a posture ready to fight, and never let go of anyone’s negligence and mistakes. He hurt you and talked about your shortcomings. He said that this is for your own good, not a loved one. Who would say your shortcomings? You must realize that you are very humble and incompetent.

This kind of person with a desire to control is an insecure person. Because he is insecure, he needs your cooperation and proof. He doesn’t love you, but this kind of love will make you feel unable to breathe. He will trap you in a cage. You will only have a peaceful life if you obey.

Not suitable for the crowd: those who are relatively independent, do not want others to be restrained, who already lack self-confidence, and need encouragement; those who cannot stand severe criticism and harsh criticism; and those with strong self-esteem.

Suitable for the crowd: the character is more docile and does not mind the other party controlling the situation; the strong and the strong, the style is sharper.

Minefield No. 8: Emotional Pansy

He is particularly compassionate and cherishes jade, and like Brother Bao’s reincarnation, if it is a woman, it belongs to his care. He has a lot of female friends, he is easy to sympathize with others, and he must worry about everyone’s affairs and take care of them. You can’t express dissatisfaction with any of his friends, otherwise he will feel that you are not too careful, so many gentle and considerate women outside are waiting to occupy your position, and you are still picky and simply don’t know whether to die or die.

He is a prodigal son, constantly running between many women, all love ends without disease. His love experience is full of tricks, enough to produce a book, he has read countless people, and his ex-girlfriend is like a neighbour in the neighbourhood. If you go to the street, you can find three or five, and you can’t tell it for three days and three nights. He said that he didn’t know what love was before he met you, and that only meeting you was his destination. At this time, you began to wonder if he had said that to all the women before, and what could prove that you would not be one of them.

In fact, you really have no way to prove it. A person’s behaviour pattern and his attitude towards feelings have long been fixed, and it is extremely difficult to change. He may always live according to the kind of posture he is used to. People who have experienced too much love and whose love objects are too complex tend to deviate from the relatively simple and sacred imagination of their feelings, and they will be more likely to become numb and stylized. To accept such a person, and not care about the past experiences, is indeed a test for some people.

A man with a pansy of feelings will be a good friend for the rest of his life, but being a husband is a test. You always need to struggle to find your place in the circle of his female friends, and you also need to give in to your girlfriends from time to time. He made a good man, but he threw the biggest burden to you.

Not suitable for the crowd: those who taboo their own men from interacting with other women; those who believe that there is no real benefit between men and women; those who hate men and women; those who are jealous and cannot tolerate their lovers having shared feelings with so many people; those who are simple in character and are not suitable for complex emotional ways.

Suitable for the crowd: those who believe that the prodigal son will return and are confident in his feelings; those who are super generous and don’t care about each other’s emotional experiences; those who pursue their own space between men and women; and those who have countless friends of the opposite sex.

Minefield No. 9: Inferior Companions

He has a group of all sorts of friends, like bad companions, complicated background companions etc. You always think that their faces are abomination, their words are boring, and they are all people you can’t appreciate. His friends will not encourage him to work hard and concentrate on his career. They will only find him crazy and ask him to help clean up the mess. They tell him that men can’t spoil women. They are easily introducing his girlfriend to him, encouraging him to have trouble with you. His friends have given him a bad influence, but he just likes them, doesn’t like those who really have connotations, and people who are stronger than themselves.

Maybe he is very good to you now and will not listen to his friends ‘ opinions. You think he is the best one in their group. You don’t believe that your friends have broken him, and hope he draws a line with them.

No, it’s not exactly that simple. A person’s taste in choosing a friend depends on his inner taste. What kind of friends a person has, what kind of life philosophy he has? No matter how different they look now, in fact, they are all a class of people and affect each other. There are too few people who are out of the sludge without dyeing, and those who really have a mind will not choose to stand in the sludge at all.

Not suitable for the crowd: those who have high requirements for the quality of men; those who cannot appreciate the chaos of men’s social relations.

Suitable for the crowd: like many friends, and the three religions are acceptable; the personality is simple and there are no complex requirements.

Minefield No. 10: Mystery Background

You know from a third party or an online platform. Your life before that did not intersect. Your knowledge of him is limited to his own introduction and what you can see. You don’t know anything about his background, past, history, and family. He never talks about the past in front of you, you only have his present, and you can’t understand the past. Whatever he says, you just must believe what he says. You want to conclude a lifetime with him, but a man who suddenly landed to the present day really makes you unable to completely believe it.

At this time, you must know how to protect yourself and learn to observe. In this society, the enhancement of personnel mobility has caused many cross-regional exchanges, and many emotional liars have left dew love in one place after another in this way. Living with a man with a vague background forever is like holding a time bomb, and I can’t be sure when it will erupt.

Not suitable for the crowd: those who want a stable married life and are not willing to take risks.

Suitable for the crowd: bold and careful, who dare to try.

Men are complicated? Wrong! A man’s love and unlove are hidden in what he said!

Love is the best thing in the world. You fall in love with the right person, and you feel that your whole life is shining brightly. Seeing him, you feel like a sunflower blooming in your heart. This unique sunflower will only open to him. Where he goes, your heart will follow him.

Thinking of him, your heart is full of flavors, sweet and sad. You want to know his news anytime, every day, as every three autumns.

If you are left out for a few days, you will worry about whether all possible things have happened to him. The first thing that comes to mind is that he no longer loves. The love of men, deep and introverted, does often make women uncertain about the direction of their feelings.

When he is enthusiastic, he may be preparing to stay away from your prelude. When he is cold, it may be that he feels that your relationship has entered a period of steady development.

Therefore, women often cannot figure out their thoughts, but if a man has said these four sentences to you, it basically means that he does not have you in his heart.

The first sentence: He will always tell you “If you want to think so, I can’t help it”.

You may quarrel often, or you always feel that you are not getting along well, and you always feel that you are not being cherished, so you are always unhappy. You ask him if he loves you, or the answer is more perfunctory or silent.

He always finds you annoying, and he doesn’t want to solve the problem at all. He would say that if you think so, then I can’t help it.

My dear, it’s not that you are always irritating him, but that he knows that he doesn’t love you and chooses you, just because you are small and obedient. His words are to warn you that if you continue to make trouble like this, your relationship will end here.

The Second sentence: In the chat conversation, his answers were “um” and “oh”. He has never thought of letting him start the topic, nor has he thought of continuing the topic with you.

If you happily go to him to share something happy, he will just give you an “Oh” without taking a closer look, and he won’t say anything.

When you are sad and sad, go to him and talk to him in an attempt to comfort him, but the result will not make you as you wish, because he will only answer with the word “um”, which is so concise that you wonder if he has heard you clearly. Something sad happened.

In fact, he saw everything you told him, but he didn’t know how to comfort you, or he didn’t want to comfort you. He just wanted to end the conversation with you quickly, and then he gave you an “um” to indicate that he had read it.

The third sentence: He will always tell you that you have to be “strong” and “work hard.”

Every man always has a little princess in his heart. He loves you and you are his little princess. He doesn’t love you, you are a hardworking maid in his family who can’t complain or be fragile.

He deeply felt how fierce the competition in society was, even a big man of him couldn’t deal with it, and he felt a lot of pressure. He encourages you and tells you to work hard and do your best to compete in a world full of men. Even to spur you from time to time, or you ridicule your inferior girlfriend (wife).

Why would he do that? Just because he didn’t treat you as a woman, let alone treat you as his woman.